The fact that technology constantly changes our way of existing and impacts our lives and relationships is nothing new. That influence can be immense and overwhelming and happened a lot throughout history, like when Luddites went on a rampage, breaking textile machines in the 19th century infuriated with those taking over their jobs.
Their reaction was maybe drastic but nevertheless, perfectly shows how innovation can affect some people. Back in the day, people used to take ages traveling distances on foot, with horses or carriages and today we can finish that same trip in a matter of hours. Columbus took months to reach America yet, nowadays, planes take less than a day. On the other hand, technology can slowly and, to many, unnoticeably, change lives forever.
Take communication and messaging for example. Way back, letters were one of the most convenient ways of communication. Long-distance relationships, no matter their nature, were much different than they are today. Letters were written with a lot of thought and care because there was much to be said considering response could be waited for days, weeks, even months. Today, we don’t even think about how big of a deal was to receive a letter.
They were read countless times almost in a ritualistic manner. It’s nothing strange that love letters have earned their status as one of most romantic gestures one lover can do for the other, considering those used to be the only means of having any sort of communication between a couple who is, for one reason or another, far apart. Writing an important message and then not knowing whether it will arrive while waiting for a response for an undefined period is something modern society can’t even fathom.
Now, traditionalists and naysayers will always go on about how it used to be better “back then” but, the truth is, there are always pros and cons. Relationships then required a lot more trust and perseverance to succeed. If there was only one way to maintain communication then that way had to work. Not saying that today’s relationships don’t require trust and confidence, but they do so in a different way. Communication is so easy nowadays and people have grown so much accustomed to it that, where someone used to wait months for a reply, people can now get nervous within seconds of not receiving a response.
While that is not the best comparison, it does show how “easy” we have it and how used we are to this incredible gift we possess. In our pockets, we carry all the knowledge of the world, connection to everyone on the planet, the ability to play matchless sex games whenever possible, yet we sometimes get even more alienated from others. However, technology is really not to blame here. There were people who didn’t like relationships centuries ago the same way some don’t do now. If you want to use a smartphone or PC to surf Japanese porn sites instead of socializing, that is perfectly fine.