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If You’re Attacked in a Small Bathroom – Self Defense for Bathroom Attack

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I recently read a very disturbing article about a young woman who was sexually assaulted in an airplane bathroom. She was attacked on a red eye flight, by a drunk man who sat in the seat next to her on the plane. It’s hard to imagine how an attack can occur in such a tight place, as an airplane bathroom, with loads of passengers just nearby. But it did. We have to remember that sexual assaults are attacks of opportunity. He followed her to the bathroom, controlled and intimidated her and assaulted her.

As I began to research bathroom attacks, I realized that it was much more common than I could have imagined. Girls and boys in school bathrooms, women in mall restrooms, park restrooms, and hotel bathrooms.

It’s quite a shock when an enraged person kicks in a door, or pushes in behind you into a bathroom stall, a public bathroom, or rest area, to attack you. Let me be brutally clear with you. When someone attacks you in a bathroom, he or she is doing it there, because of the remote location, which a bathroom provides.

An attacker’s goal is to hurt, beat you and control you. With control, and having inflicted bodily harm, he can continue to sexually assault you, and perhaps kill you.

The bathroom attacks that I read about, happened almost the same way in each case. The first situation, happened at least three or four times and in different areas. They were incidents that involved, several lone females who entered public bathrooms, and were violently confronted by a male attacker, hiding in the stall.

My first lesson is one of awareness. A person who is texting or on the phone, is going to be an easy target. Don’t be glued to your phone. Be aware of anyone who is lurking nearby, and may follow you into the bathroom. Be aware of door and locks that seem to have been tampered with or damaged. It probably was done deliberately. Trust your instinct, if something feels off, find another bathroom. Be alert when you are alone in a bathroom. When a male comes out of a stall, he may just play dumb, and pretend that he thought he was in the men’s room.

If you are female, first action, don’t listen to his excuses, run towards the exit, while screaming that a man followed you into the bathroom. If he’s been hiding in there for a while, he probably knows, exactly how much time he has, before another person enters.

Second situation. You are in a stall and someone kicks in the door. The first reaction will be of pure shock until your adrenaline kicks in. The attacker will use these first shocked moment to beat you or hit you in the face, and head. Head punches and blows can disorientate a victim. He or she could punch, hit you in the face with an object, or kick you in the face, several times. Even though you have been hit, you must take action. Turn your head, and tuck your head to one of your shoulders, and put your arms up about six inches in front of your head and face, make fists, to absorb the blows.

Get down and under to the next stall if you can. If you do get under, get up immediately. If you can, use the door as a weapon and slam it into the attackers face. Keep your fists and arms up in defense. Push him towards the stall to make a clear escape for yourself. Kick him into the knee, and knee him in the groin. Believe it or not, females also feel pain if they are kicked or kneed in the pubic area.

If you can’t get under to the next stall, push your forearms and fists into the attacker’s chin or chest as you stand up. Slam your forearms hard against face, ribs, chest, and shoulder of basically anything that you can reach. Kick straight out to attacker’s knees. Be prepared, as you stand up, that the attacker will likely attempt to choke you, in order to control and immobilize you, or continue to punch you. This choke may be a front attack or from the back.

If the attacker is attempting to chock you from the back, push your hips back into him to unbalance him. Elbow him hard into the ribs. Almost simultaneously take a step towards the right with your right foot, which will pull him slightly off balance. Bring your left leg over his right leg, and plant your left foot and leg right behind his right leg. Pivot your right foot towards him. Now you will be facing his right side. He won’t be able to hold on to your neck while you are now to his side. With your left fist, punch into his back and towards his right ribs. Then push your right forearm and elbow into him with all your might, and this move will knock him forward and away from you. Run towards the door. If he grabs you again. Kick your heel back into his knee. Keep kicking and screaming.

I’m going to describe the above escape from the left side as well for reference. Push your hips back into him, elbow him, take a step left, and immediately put your right foot up, over and behind his left leg, pivot your left foot towards him. Punch with your right hand into his ribs and back, and then with your left forearm, slam him forward and away from you.

Another trick that the attacker will use, is to slam your head into a wall or down against a hard surface such as the sink, toilet or hand dryer. Put your hands and forearms in front of your face, so if he slams you, your arms will absorb the impact and not your face. Tuck your chin towards one of your shoulders. Kick your heel back into his knees. Keep kicking back, attempt to step on his or her foot. When the attacker loosens the grip even slightly turn your body towards him with your elbow and forearm out. This gives you several options, of defense. Swing your elbow into his ribs, sternum bone, head, then follow with other fist to his head, ribs or throat or sternum.

Last choke scenario from the front. He will most likely be facing you, and will use two hands and press or squeeze your neck. A great effective move to accomplish no matter your height, is to reach across his outstretched arms, grab the hand that is farthest from your hand that you just moved.

For an example with your right hand reach across and grab his pinky on his right hand and pull it straight up towards the ceiling. With your right hand keep control of his right hand, press down with your forearm against his wrists to cause pressure, continue to bend his little finger up towards the ceiling. As soon as he starts to release, step to the right. You will continue to press your palm against his hand, and slowly twist the pinky side up, and pull his right hand towards you and down towards the right. Continue to bend his little finger side up. With the other hand, press your palm into his elbow, and move your left foot to be parallel with your right foot. Your feet are open about shoulder width.

If you grabbed his right hand with your right, you step right and pull him towards that side, press your left palm into his right elbow. Guess what, if he doesn’t want his elbow to snap, he will move with you. As he stumbles off balance, while you are holding his arm, knee him in the face. This is easier with your right knee. If you reached with your left hand, then you will grab his left pinky and pull it straight up towards the ceiling. Press your forearm into his wrists and step left. Control his left with your left, and press your right palm into his elbow. Adjust your feet position so they are parallel, and which puts you in better position to knee him in his face and head with your left knee.

A bathroom attacker is there to hurt you and trap you! It’s not going to be pretty, this is not a rehearsed movie scene. Everything hurts and you will be exhausted, terrified, and won’t be able to breathe. But remember this, he or she doesn’t know that you are about to go to battle. An attacker will be clueless and shocked that you have learned a few good fight techniques, and can take an offensive to break free. If you drop your purse, bag, or jacket during this frantic moment, don’t go back for it. You must get out to safety. Keep your focus and objective and you will.

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Beach Life: 3 Regional Coastal Home Design Ideas That You Should Know

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Living on the coast has many benefits. And though depending on where on the coast you live you may have to contend with nasty weather and hurricanes from time to time, this is simply the price for living in paradise.

One thing that you have to remember about coastal living is that not all coasts are created equal. In fact, the Pacific coast is starkly different from the Atlantic or the Gulf coasts. Each has its own unique culture, but all have one thing in common—close proximity to water.

While water is going to be a central point of your overall beach theme when you get into forming your design, your local culture is also going to play a part. Because as mentioned, you’ll want to ensure that your theme fits with the local geography as well as with the elements that make your space on the map unique.

Here, we’ll explore 3 coastal locations and the features that you’ll want to focus on depending on where you live.

Gulf Coast Themes

The Gulf Coast region of the United States offers those who live along its shores a great degree of difference from Brownsville Texas over to Naples Florida. Along this vast coastline, the water changes significantly, as does the culture.

Along the northern coast, from Mississippi westward, the waters are much more brackish than you’ll find along the southern Texas coast or along the coast of Florida. As such, the coastal themes and decor that you’ll want to incorporate should be indicative of the area in which you live.

For example, those who live along the northern Gulf region often have numerous festivals that occur all throughout the year. And Mardi Gras is a common theme found in most coastal dwellings in this region. And as this area is home to some of the best fishing in the United States, fishermen themes are also quite popular in many coastal homes from Galveston to Gulf Shores.

If you’re new to the area, no matter which region of the Gulf coast you find yourself in, you’ll also be able to find a variety of beach-related decor in local coastal shops, much of which will work perfectly for your coastal theme.

Pacific Coast

Like the Gulf Coast, the Pacific coast is also just as diverse depending on where you live. Correspondingly, choosing your decor should also suit your region.

For example, those who live in southern California have a much different climate than that found along the coast of Oregon or Washington state. In this region, surf-style themes are quite popular due to the prevalence of surfers who frequent the local breaks. Along with this, you’ll find bungalow-style beach homes which reflect the tranquility of the vast Pacific.

Traveling further north, you’ll notice the climate goes from sunny to foggy and cloudy for most of the year. However, the rocky and rugged coastline also becomes a prominent feature. And this is often incorporated into wall art and decor along the Oregon and Northern California coasts.

Additionally, you’ll also find a more health-conscious element among the population of the northern Pacific coast. As such, meditation rooms and other elements that bring the natural beauty and tranquility of the coast into the home are things to consider as well.

Atlantic Coast

Once again, diversity is alive and well along the entire length of the Atlantic coast. From the tip of the Florida peninsula to the rocky shores of Maine, you’ll find something different in each region that you might just love to incorporate into your home design.

For example, like southern California, along the east coast of Florida, you’ll find surfing themes are plentiful and often a part of most coastal home decor. But further up the coast, you travel such as in the Carolinas, you’ll find a blend of fishing and boating designs in the form of fine art that are often incorporated as well.

If you’re living the good life and you can afford it, you may find yourself in the coastal New England area in places like Hampton Beach. And in this region, you’ll find a blend of coastal colors, fishing, boating, and upscale design that no other coastal area has.

No matter where you find yourself, channeling the natural elements into your home design such as raw wood, soft blues, aquamarine, and vibrant whites are going to bring that coastal vibe into your home. But just remember where you’re living. Because chances are you’re going to find unique elements right at home that make your space fit in perfectly with your locale.

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Beautiful Wooden Gift Ideas 2022

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One of the best gifts to get someone is a gift that can remain on display for years to come, like a well-built wooden present. But exactly which types of ideas will make the right impact on your loved one? 

If you’re trying to show your love and appreciation for someone else, here are a few beautiful wooden gift ideas worth adding to your shopping list. 

Celebrate and Memorialize With Personalized Signs

There’s always something to celebrate in your loved ones’ lives. In some cases, this may be an achievement like graduating college, moving to a new home to start a family, or even getting the job of their dreams. Of course, there are also difficult occasions that we may wish to memorialize and work through collectively, such as the passing of a loved one or a pet in the family. 

Hardwood signs fit well into almost any space and allow you to forever capture these moments that are important in our lives. Personalized hardwood gifts like these can easily be hung or displayed proudly on a shelf as a token of your appreciation for that person and all that they represent to you. Every time they look at their gift, they’ll think fondly of both what it represents and the person who gave it to them!

Capture Moments Forever With Stunning Picture Frames

Immortalizing your favorite moments with your loved ones framed perfectly in your favorite picture frames can be a great way to grow your connection with those closest to you. Whether you’re a fan of natural wood products or recycled wood products (a better option for those who are eco-friendly in your family or friend group), there are plenty of great products out there designed for any space. 

Decorations and Ornaments

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Small wooden crafts are great gifts to get those who want to spruce up their space and have something

sentimental around that they can cherish. For example, if their indoor plants are looking a bit bare, wooden ornaments that can hold a photo or feature an important date can be a great present to give them that they can use year after year. 

Furniture and Decorations

If you’re looking for something that can be used throughout the year instead, there are tons of wooden items that will be greatly appreciated. These include children’s toys or benches, small personalized wooden coasters or trays, or even items they can hang around the house like clocks.

If your budget is a bit higher, you may want to invest in some nice furniture or extravagant pieces like a Grandfather clock that they’ve been looking to buy for themselves. Items don’t have to be expensive to be thoughtful, but these gifts are sure to be greatly appreciated and taken care of for years to come. Put simply, the only limit to what type of decorations and trinkets you can get for your loved one is your imagination! 

Wood Is Timeless and Sturdy, Just Like Your Love!

Finding great presents that are thoughtful, functional, and well-built can feel like a difficult feat. However, wooden gifts meet all of these requirements, giving your loved ones something that they can enjoy and display for years to come. That being said, there are so many great ideas out there that it can be hard to sift through all of the wonderful suggestions and find something that pertains to your relationship with family, friends, or your partner. 

If you’re ready to give those closest to you a gift that represents your love and dedication, use some of the beautiful wooden gift ideas above as inspiration to build your shopping list. No matter what type of gift you decide to give them, the thought and quality of your present is sure to put a smile on their face!

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The Joys of Living in Luxury Apartments

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You’re tired of living in your small, boring, and white-walled apartment, but you don’t want to purchase a home that requires a lot of work. You’ve heard of luxury apartments and their amazing features. So, are they everything they say they are? Look at these reasons you need to choose a luxury apartment for your next home.

9 Reasons Why You Need to Upgrade Your Home

  1. You’re Always in a Prime Location

Luxury apartments are usually in the heart of booming businesses or swanky suburbs and offer a lot of walkability. Many times you can rent a luxury apartment next to parks or trails, while also being nearby your citi’s hottest shopping and entertainment districts. 

Big Bonus: Most luxury apartments have 24-mini markets and complimentary coffee bars, so you can stay home when you really want to. 

  1. Your Pets are Treated With Prestige

There are pet-friendly apartments, and then there are luxury apartments where your pet is considered a resident. For instance, you won’t find private bark parks or paw spas in basic apartment complexes. 

Big Bonus: Leasing teams in luxury apartments put residents first, which is why most have treats and bandanas waiting for your dog when you’re done spending quality time using their pet-friendly amenities.

  1. A Great Place for Work and Play

If you’re like most people, you need to work at some point. With today’s ever increasing remote work, luxury apartments are the best place to earn your paycheck from home. Not only do floor plans provide ample space for a home office, they also have community features like multipurpose meeting rooms for business and entertaining.

Big Bonus: The floor plans in luxury apartments are thoughtfully designed and offer uniquely elegant features. For example, you might find pop-out desks, under-counter beverage coolers, and smart home features.

  1. There’s Nothing Like Summer in Luxury Apartments

Summer amenities are definitely something to behold when you live in downtown apartments or apartments nestled in the suburbs. That’s because they always have stunning and breathtaking pools. Spend your time soaking up the sun in submerged loungers on a rooftop pool with stunning views.

Big Bonus: Luxury apartments don’t stop at the pool. They often feature extravagant private cabanas, hot tubs, summer kitchens, and outdoor televisions.

  1. You Definitely Won’t Need a Gym Membership

The fitness facilities in luxury apartments are top-of-the-line, and include many pieces of equipment you wouldn’t find in basic apartment complex gyms, like rowing machines and cycle studios. Many luxury apartments also offer a separate space for yoga and other group fitness classes.

Big Bonus: Luxury apartments often have outdoor fitness areas, too. You might rent apartments that feature golf courses, pickleball and tennis courts, or even supply community bicycles so you can explore your neighborhood with ease.

  1. They Go Above and Beyond With Entertainment

When you live in regular apartments, you might get a clubhouse with comfortable seating. However, the entertainment and community spaces in luxury apartments have entertainment features that make you feel you live in a resort. You’ll find things like media lounges and pool tables to fill your free time.

Big Bonus: Most luxury apartment properties have monthly resident events where you can sip on craft cocktails, play games, and get to know your neighbors.

  1. You Won’t Find a Better Way to Relax

You’ve worked the day away, tackled your fitness routine, and now it’s time to relax. Thankfully, luxury apartments have your back, literally. Most luxe properties have private day spas and massage rooms for you to reserve at your convenience. 

Big Bonus: You get a golden glow for free in your luxury apartment complex, because many have tanning beds. Some super luxe properties even offer spray tans, so you can be bronzed for summer.

  1. Don’t Worry About a Hotel Room for Your Guests

One of the worst parts about having friends and family in town to visit is that they have to stay in a hotel. When you rent a luxury apartment, you’ll most likely have a guest suite available for your loved ones. That way, you can spend more time together and less time traveling back and forth.

Big Bonus: How many times have you arrived at your basic apartment complex only to have zero parking available? Most luxury apartment complexes offer reserved and covered parking for your vehicle.

  1. Your Valuables Are Always Secure

Luxury apartments use state-of-the-art security equipment to keep you and your things safe. This means you can find cameras monitoring every inch of the property and smart locks to ensure only residents have access to your building.

Big Bonus: Luxury apartments realize that meal delivery services are a great way to get a fresh and fast meal. That’s why many offer cold storage package rooms, so you don’t have to worry about your food spoiling while you’re away.

Are Luxury Apartments Worth It?

Absolutely! If you’re a person looking for a low-maintenance lifestyle and incredible perks, then you won’t find a better home than a luxury apartment, because they have the space and features to facilitate a carefree life. The only choice you need to make is which property has the amenities you need to live your best life! 

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