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Poor Little Alcoholic: A Childhood Lost, A Soul Shattered



My family was never a loving one. There were no hugs, no kisses, no “I love you’s” that I can remember. If someone was upset or traumatized and needed support, they weren’t going to find it in this family! Nobody ‘rallied around’ to support them. I never knew self-esteem or self-worth-not even briefly. Everywhere I turned, I found cruelty, sadness, fear and pain.

Any attention-seeking or moping around was usually met with something like-“Oh, for Christ’s sake! Get over it!” If I had friends over, she would scream and yell and completely humiliate me right in front of them. After a while, kids just stopped hanging around with me.

And, of course, my mother’s favorite: the wooden paddle! It was in the shape of a hand and had ‘Mother’s Helper’ written across it and when she got really mad-well-you knew you were getting smacked with that paddle.

I truly felt like my parents resented having to raise me. I was sort of born and left to figure life out on my own; to somehow instinctively learn right from wrong; how to be a perfect child. Of course, when mistakes were made, she made it perfectly clear what a failure and disappointment I was.

My childhood was over before it started

I took my first drug at age nine. One day, in 2nd grade, I had come home from school crying, probably from being bullied. My grandmother sat me down at the kitchen table and put a half of a little orange pill in front of me. “Don’t chew it” she said, “It looks like a baby aspirin but it’s not. Just swallow it with your milk”. So I did. And I loved it! It was a valium.

I started drinking at 12 years old. See, my parents had a fully stocked “liquor closet”; full of every kind of liquor imaginable. This puzzled me because I had never seen either of my parents drink alcohol-ever. But, there it was, so one Sunday, while both of my parents were working, my friend Pam and I filled BIG Styrofoam cups with a little bit of every type of liquor. We just mixed some from each bottle.

I blacked out that day, and when I ‘came to’, Pam and I were across town and hanging at the park with some boys from the other second grade class. I soon learned that kids wanted to hang out with me when I had drugs or alcohol. Heck, it beats not having any friends at all, right?

Within one year, I well on my way to becoming a full-blown addict and alcoholic. The first thing I remember noticing is that I was unable to go to sleep without a drink. I had to wait until everyone went to bed, then sneak downstairs for a big cup of alcohol.

Then I had an “AHA” moment. “This”, I thought, “must be why mom and dad keep a liquor closet!” I honestly thought all grownups had to drink to sleep! Since I never heard my parents talk about drinking, I assumed that it just wasn’t something to share. So, I kept it to myself.

I think it’s worth mentioning that, being so young and naïve, I had no idea what alcoholism was-even at age 14. I had never heard of an alcoholic, much less known one! I had no idea there was anything wrong with what I was doing!

By age 14, I physically couldn’t stop drinking. I suffered a couple of minor seizures, woke up with the shakes, developed insomnia unless I drank at night, got really nauseous when I couldn’t drink and all sorts of other hideous withdrawal symptoms. My depression was also worsening rapidly. I was beginning to think about suicide. I stayed in my room all day, every day reading books.

I remember sitting in my pediatrician’s office one morning (I think I was 13-years-old) and telling her-no, begging herto give me some antidepressants. I told her I was so depressed, I didn’t care if I lived or not (and, in fact, only days ago I made a feeble attempt while I was walking to school. I could hear a heavy truck coming up the road behind me and without a second thought, I jumped in front of it. Fortunately, the driver was alert and stopped just in time).Anyhow, her response was a flat “I’m not prescribing many medicine for you as long as you’re drinking the way you do”. This was coming from my DOCTOR! Not a single adult in my life had ever had a discussion with me about getting help. Nobody had ever told me that there were places I could go for help, like detox.

Around age 19, I started dabbling with heavier drugs. At the time, I was working at a sports bar. Each night, after our shifts ended, the other waitresses and I would sit down at the bar and have a few drinks. When we got to feeling pretty good, one of them, Barbara, and I would go across town to another bar where we would buy cocaine from the bartender there. Then we would proceed to get majorly fucked up into the wee hours of the morning. Still, I didn’t see that a problem. To me, it was just the norm. After all, we ALL drank the same way. I had nothing else to compare my drinking to!

Then, one afternoon Barbara came back from break, crying, and told me she needed to go to a hospital. “Why?” I asked. She said “Because I’m an alcoholic”. I said to her, “No. You’re not. You drink the same as the rest of us!

Clinical Depression: Unrecognized & Untreated

People who suffer from untreated major depression (as well as other mental health issues) quite often end up turning to drugs and alcohol to cope. Children and young adults are especially vulnerable because they aren’t capable of understanding what is wrong and surely can’t find the right words to ask for help.


Any plant-even a flower-that grows where it is not wanted

I grew up feeling like the most unwanted, unlovable, worthless, homeliest child in the world. I was always afraid. Afraid of being bullied. Afraid of being humiliated. Afraid of making mistakes. Afraid of everything!

I had suffered many more instances of being berated, belittled and humiliated in front of anyone who was near at the time. By the age of twelve, I had become depressed and withdrawn. I couldn’t seem to make even one friend. I was verbally, emotionally and, quite often, physically, abused by my parents and I was bullied and tormented in school-by students and teachers alike. I would get physically ill at the thought of having to face the bullies at school.

I endured a lot of emotional and mental abuse at home. I’m not going to get into specific details because it still brings up strong feelings in me that I would rather forget. But, once I discovered how to self-medicate all that went away.

Fragmented Memories

So, If my story sounds a little scattered and disjointed, it’s because my recall of the last 40 years of my life is a jumble of memories and blackouts that I’m still trying to piece together. I did my best to get the dates as right as I could. I guess my story, much like myself, will always be a work in progress.

1974-ish: I remember coming home from school one day, crying inconsolably over something (I had probably been harassed by the other kids again. Kids can be so cruel). Anyway, I was in 3rd grade, I think, so I was about 9 years old. My grandmother sat me down at the kitchen table and put a half of a little peach-colored pill in my hand. My grandmother told me “I know it looks like baby aspirin but it’s not. Don’t chew it, it will taste awful”, so I took it and remember falling in love with the feeling it gave me.

That pill was a Valium. From that day on, I went into my grandmother’s purse every time she turned her back on it and I looked for those pills. Actually, I would take a couple of any pills I found and I would eat them and see if it was something that made me feel good or bad. If I felt good-I went back for more.

1977-ish: At age 12, I discovered alcohol. See, my parents had a “liquor closet” stocked with every imaginable type of hard liquor-and they weren’t even drinkers! I never understood this. So, while both of them were working one Sunday, a friend and I proceeded to “taste test” everything. I just poured a little of everything into a big styrofoam cup and drank it down. I blacked out that first time and when I came out of the blackout, I found myself on the other side of town-hanging around a couple of kids I didn’t know. But, hey-at least I had friends now, right? From then on, I drank every chance I got.

I remember thinking how wonderful it was that I discovered these miraculous things called drugs and alcohol. These things that made my insecurities go away and made other kids want to hang out with me! I became one of the crowd. I had friends and a social life. I felt like I had been saved!

1978-ish: After maybe one year of drinking, I was unable to fall asleep without alcohol or drugs, so I would sneak to the “liquor closet” and steal a few drinks. That’s when it finally dawned on me… so THIS is why my parents kept all this alcohol! They must drink to go to sleep, too! Being just 13 and extremely naive I thought that everyone drank alcohol before bed.

Another incident I remember is standing in my pediatrician’s office and begging her for antidepressants. I kept telling her that I was so depressed all the time that I couldn’t eat, sleep and could barely make it to school in the morning. Her response? “I’m not prescribing you any pills as long as you keep drinking the way you do”.

I often (VERY often) wonder how my life would have turned out if someone, some grown-up in my life-had intervened. Instead, it just seemed like they all wanted to sweep it under the rug. I think about all the times I would be out babysitting and as soon as the parents left, I would go to the cabinet above the refrigerator (that’s where everyone kept their alcohol in those days) and I would get totally inebriated. I mean, there were times they took me home and almost had to pour me in my front door. Yet, nobody talked about it.

Okay, this is where my memories start getting a bit fuzzier.

At the age of 19-my little 13-year-old brother-Anthony-was hit and killed by a drunk driver in front of 4 of his friends. He was crossing the street to go to the movies and a drunk driver blew the one red light on that stretch of road and killed him. At the time, I was in charge of my 2 younger brothers and 2 younger sisters (for the FIRST time) while my parents vacationed in Italy. That was a nightmare! We had to have the American Embassy find my parents, we asked the American Red Cross to find my brother who was in the service (thank God he was still in the US).

I remember that only the day before, I had picked up a full prescription of Valium-120 of them-from my friend’s brother (he was a paraplegic, but didn’t like the way Valium made him feel, so he would give them to me) and within the next 3 days, while we tracked down my parents and brother, I had eaten them all. I didn’t want to lay down because I couldn’t fall asleep. All I could do was cry for my little brother. And I didn’t like being awake because all I could do was think about my little brother. So, I drank coffee and ate Valiums for 3 days until I was so exhausted that I could finally sleep without thinking or dreaming.

By this time, I had already been taking painkillers for years, but after my little brother’s death, someone urged me to try cocaine (when I wasn’t in the process of getting shit-faced). To be honest, I didn’t really care for it the first few times. Then I realized that if I did coke while I was drinking, I could drink longer without much effect. Yeah. I was up for that. After that, I never went out drinking without my cocaine.

1988 through the late 90sIn 1988, at age 22, I found out I was pregnant-and I quit everything.

By this time, I had lost about 15 years of my life to drugs and alcohol. 15 years of wandering through my childhood in a drug-induced haze of humiliation. 15 years of losing jobs, apartments and relationships. So it still mystifies me how I was able to put everything down so easily then, but could never do it before.

When I held my son for the first time and looked at this tiny, perfect little human being, my heart swelled with a love so strong that I thought it would burst. I didn’t know I could feel anything so powerful and so wonderful! I had finally done something right and good. I had found my true calling! I managed to stay clean for almost 4 ½ years. My son was the only thing that made me want to get better; to live.

Then, when my baby was 5 or 6 years old, I relapsed. I don’t know why, or even when, I took the first drink. But it quickly took control of my life again. And ruined it. I tried my best to hide it, but it was hopeless. I was back in the throes of addiction again.

When I tried to stop, I became so physically ill that I couldn’t get out of bed. The only thing that took away the severe withdrawals was more alcohol. And if I did get up, the feelings of shame, guilt and humiliation were so overwhelming that all I could do was numb them with-you guessed it-more alcohol.

By the time my sweet boy was 10 years old, it became obvious to everyone, including myself, that I was in no shape to be taking care of a child. I couldn’t even take care of myself. My family was pressuring me to go into treatment. I had thought about it, too, but I had my 10-year-old son to think about. I was terrified that if I left for a week of treatment, my ex would take my son away from me. My family assured me, repeatedly, that they would never let that hap

2000-So, I finally agreed to go to detox. If I wanted any kind of a normal life, I needed to get clean and sober. Again. My family was pressuring me to do something, but I was still afraid of losing my son and I COULDN’T bear that! “He wouldn’t do that!” they said. “We wouldn’t let him do that”

So, I went. And I stayed for 12 days and left feeling, for the first time in my life, that there was hope, after all. I couldn’t wait to go home and see my son. When I walked into my house, I saw a document on my kitchen table. It was a court document stating that my family had gone to court to support my baby’s father in taking custody of my son away from me. “Tough Love” at it’s finest.

I felt a sudden, stabbing pain. It was unlike anything I have ever felt in my life-like someone sticking knives into an open wound in my soul. It was the deepest, most hideous sorrow I’d ever known; a heartache; an emotional deadness so raw and deep that it made me want to throw up or claw my own heart out. I wanted to scream; to let out a glass-shattering, gut-wrenching, guttural roar of pain, but I didn’t know how. How do you express that level of pure, unadulterated agony? How do you express so much heartbreak and grief that your heart and soul is turning black as it slowly dies? What does that much anguish and despair sound like? What if I couldn’t stop the scream once I started?

A part of me died that day and, when my attempts to get my son back failed, I finally stopped treading water and let myself drown in a life of drugs, alcohol, despair and homelessness. My heart hurt so bad every day over my boy. I cried myself to sleep for years after that. I felt like my soul had turned black and died.

I had little will to live. The only reason why I DIDN”T kill myself was the thought of someday being reunited with my son.

Hitting bottom

I had been resisting going to residential treatment. Somewhere in my damaged mind, I really thought that I could do it on my own. If only I could have my son back. If only I wasn’t living in a shelter. If only, If only, If only…

As much as I didn’t want treatment, but my family was not going to allow me to return home after detox. They had had enough. So it was either treatment or the streets. In fact, it was there, in my first halfway house, that I met the man who introduced me to heroin. I became an alcoholic and an addict-and I didn’t care.

My life was so messed up right now, that the pain of staying sober and having to face the train wreck that was my childhood was greater than the pain of getting high. Plus, with my family essentially shutting their doors to me, I felt more alone, more scared and more unwanted than ever before. So I continued to get high.

Over the years, I lost everything. My son, money, homes, jobs, any self-respect I had left, and most of all, hope. The debilitating guilt and shame was overwhelming. I had a police record for the first time in my life. I was homeless-sleeping in shelters or outside if it felt safe enough. My family turned their backs on me. I wanted to die.

Finding Sobriety

It has now been 21 years since I lost my son. I’d been in and out of multiple rehabs over the years, failing time and time again. I had reached a point in time where everyone, including myself, had lost hope that I would ever join the living again. As addiction does, I became a slave to a drug. I went to jail more than once and stopped trying to find ways to get better. Instead, I just struggled to get through another day. How would I eat, where could I go to get out of the cold, where would I lay down my head that night? Day after day. Strangers and shoppers walking by avoided making eye contact with me, for fear that I might try to beg some change or a cigarette. Store employees, doctors… everyone treated me like I was just another junkie, polluting their world and living off the system.

Then, one morning in 2007, I suddenly woke up one morning and I just couldn’t do it anymore. I wanted to get sober or die. I had been sleeping on a floor in a cockroach-infested rooming house in Fall River. The room belonged to some gross, scrubby guy who was always trying to get my pants down while I was asleep.

I felt a little flicker of hope inside me that maybe my life was worth saving, after all. I don’t know where that hope came from, but I realized that if I didn’t get clean, this was going to be my legacy to my family and my son. I didn’t want to die where I was, sleeping on some dirty man’s floor in a rooming house infested with cockroaches and smelling of old smoke and dirty people. I would become just another nameless, faceless, worthless nobody found dead on some transient’s floor and the world would breathe a sigh of relief and say “good riddance. That’s one less leech on the community”

Just that previous night I asked God to never wake me up again. Just let me close my eyes and be gone from this world.

But, on this particular morning, I asked him “God, please! I didn’t want to die like this!”

I don’t know where the will and the strength came from, but I decided I would go into treatment one last time. I would try as hard as I could to stick with it this time, but if I relapsed again, I would take my own life. I reached a decision to try one more time. And ONLY one more time.

It was in May of 2009 that I went to detox for what would be my last time. I asked them to set me up at a methadone clinic because it was the only thing I had never tried… and I was desperate. They sent me to a shelter in Worcester and I went to that clinic every day and every day for one and a half years. Eventually, I got connected with some community resources for the homeless and they helped me get my first apartment in years.

Looking back on my broken years, I now know God had his hand on my back. By His grace, I’m not six-feet under. It was divine intervention that steered me to my last cry for help. Not a day passes that I don’t remember the ugly past and find gratitude that God helped save me. And, while the pain of what I lost in my life to addiction is always there, I still want to believe that someday God might see fit to allow me the happy ending I never believed I deserved and let me touch my son one more time before I die.

Moving forward

In my 3nd year in recovery, I took a one-year course for my CADAC (Certified Alcohol And Drug Abuse Counselor) certification, so I could become a substance abuse counselor and I interned at a Detox that would eventually hire me once my classes ended. I stayed there for eight years.

Today, I’m taking care of me and I think I’m starting to like this thing called life. I have a job I am fiercely dedicated to. I have a home and a cat. I can’t say I’m truly happy, because I never really got over losing my son. But my heart is so full of gratitude-to God and to my mother, who never gave up on me even when the rest of the world (including myself) had. I am consumed with wanting to be better every day than I was the day before-a better person to others. I have learned that I love learning things. Any things. I love random knowledge. I love knowing how to do anything I have to do to the absolute best of my ability. I love volunteering. In short, I just love paying it forward.

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Why Do Some Women Show More Scalp In Their Part Line?




I recently heard from a woman who told me that over the last couple of years, she had noticed her hair’s part line widening. In fact, she said that if she compared photos of herself from a few years ago with photos today, her scalp showing through her part line was much more noticeable in the recent photos. She asked: “now that I suspect there’s an issue with my part, I’m starting to notice that some women just show more scalp in their part line. Why does this happen? Is it normal? Should I worry about it? I don’t like how it looks and I worry that it will be very noticeable in the future.” I’ll try to address these concerns in the following article.

Some Women Naturally Have A Wider Part Line: Your part line is that area in your hair right on top of your head where your hair parts and falls on both sides. This doesn’t happen if you pull your hair straight back or put it in a ponytail, but most people see their part line unless they purposely style their hair in a different way. If your hair is thicker and you have more of it, your part line will often be quite thin or barely noticeable because there are a lot of strands pushing up on both sides. But, if your hair is thinner or more sparse, you may well have a wider line because there is less hair on both sides.

Some women just normally have finer textured hair or less strands and this has always been true for them. In fact, many women can look at photos of themselves when they were a child and will notice that their part looks similar then to the way it does now. In this case, you may not be talking about a hair loss, hair thinning, or androgenic issue because the part that you see now is the one that you have always had and this is what is normal for you.

Sometimes, Your Part Line Is Showing More Scalp Because Or Hair Loss Or Hair Thinning Issues: It can be normal for hair to thin out about as we age. Few of us have the same head of hair that we had in our teens. But people without noticeable hair loss issues generally have enough hair to adequately cover all areas of their scalp, including their part.

And sometimes, when this is no longer happening, you’ll want to explore whether you have a hair loss, hair thinning, or an androgenic issue happening. Probably the most common cause of seeing more scalp is the hair thinning condition of androgenic alopecia (or AGA.) With this condition, not only does more hair fall out (because it is adversely affected by androgens) but the hair that grows back because more fine and miniaturized as it regrows, which means that it takes more hair to provide the same coverage.

Of course, any issue that causes reasonably dramatic hair loss can cause changes in the coverage that you have on your scalp. If you have less hair (for whatever reason) then you are going to have less coverage to work with. But, the top of the scalp is a common area where you see typically see androgenic issues, although the presence of a wide part line doesn’t always mean that AGA is present. There are many possibilities. Sometimes, the coverage is what is normal for the person. And other times, a hair loss or thinning issue is taking place and still needs to be identified.

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Bread and Butter Basics – Hair Health With Homeopathy




No one wants to lose their hair. Whether it’s a result of middle age for men, the aftermath of menopause for women or after a fever, the loss of hair can be a trying event. Hair loss can also be attributable to drug use, prescribed or not. Even hereditary hair loss can sometimes be halted with the correct natural care. This is where homeopathy and simple kitchen methods can be employed.

Homeopathy is a medical discipline that has been shown to halt the loss of hair and put the sufferer in order. Because the word homeopathy includes the word “home”, many assume it means home remedies. Home remedies can indeed be useful in regaining and maintaining our health, but, homeopathy is actually a form of medicine with a record that dates back to the late 1700’s and has been accepted throughout the world ever since. Unfortunately, this has not been the case in the United States since modern medicine was so enamored with antibiotics that it no longer considered homeopathy of value. This is changing and rapidly so. The premise of homeopathy is that the body has the ability to bring itself to health when given the correct stimulus. Well chosen homeopathic remedies offer that stimulus.

So how can homeopathy help with hair loss? If the loss is fairly recent and hair is still falling, then homeopathy has been shown to more likely aid the situation. There are many remedies that can cover the issue of hair loss, but before contacting a professional homeopath, it certainly would be prudent to give the following remedies a try.

The first remedy to consider is Calc phos 6x. This is particularly useful for hair loss due to a fever; however, it can also restore hair without that symptom. It should be given three times each day for several weeks. In the old homeopathy books written by homeopathic doctors in the United Kingdom, Silica 6x and Calc fluor 6x are also consdered good choices for the loss of hair and it is suggested that they be alternated so that one day three doses of Silica can be taken, while on the alternate day, Calc fluor 6x will replace Silica.

Although not considered homeopathy, diet can be a substantial contributor to either the loss of hair or the gaining of lustrous hair. A diet rich in animal and tropical fats is of the greatest value. That is, butter, coconut oil and palm kernel oil. Making a habit of consuming these oils rich in vitamins required for healthy hair and skin can insure no further loss of hair and may reinstitute the growth. In fact, it is likely that if these quality foods have been missing in the diet, that it might be the cause of the problem in the first place. Additionally, any of these natural oils applied to the scalp can invigorate hair health.

If these simple ideas find you without results, consider consulting with a homeopath who can take the situation to a more personal level. The combination of homeopathy and natural diet change is natural and rational. It is not capricious like its modern medicine counterpart. Homeopathy and a high quality diet are true medicines for people who want to empower themselves. Good bread and butter common sense for intelligent action.

The information provided in this article is for educational purposes only and may not be construed as medical advice. The reader is encouraged to make independent inquires and to seek the advice of a licensed healthcare provider.

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Will My Hair Grow Back If I Have CTE (Chronic Telogen Effluvium)? My Opinion Based on Experience




I get a lot of questions about hair regrowth from people who have hair loss or shedding from conditions like telogen effluvium, chronic telogen effluvium, androgenic alopecia, or medical / autoimmune hair loss. Of all of these questions, the folks who have CTE seem to be the most upset because they’ve dealt with this shedding for quite a long time. By the time that they write me, usually the loss has been going on for such a long time that the effects have started to become noticeable. Of course, they want reassurance that once they are able to get the shedding to stop, they will regrow their hair and move on with their life. I will discuss this more in the following article.

The Clinical Definition Of CTE And Why You Must Stop It: You may well already know this, but technically chronic telogen effluvium means that you have been shedding over 10% of your hair volume (which works out to over 100 hair per day for most people) for longer than six months. Obviously then, shedding this much for this long is going to eventually show up and become noticeable both in terms of a loss of volume and perhaps some noticeably thinning areas on some parts of your scalp.

It’s quite likely that you are regrowing hair while this process is going on, but because you are losing it so rapidly you can not make any real gains. In other words, your scalp is kicking these hairs out before they can contribute to any real improvements. So, it’s vital that you are able to stop this cycle as soon as you can.

Now, chronic telogen effluvium is commonly caused by a trigger that you either can not find or can not seem to fix and this is what makes treating it so difficult. It’s sometimes a process of trial and error, and of slowly trying and evaluating different things until something finally works. And sometimes, unfortunately, the treatments will change our hormones even more or kick off another trigger that only perpetuates the problem. This is why you have to move as slowly as you can when trying out these treatments and why you should only introduce one thing at the time.

Your Hair Has Probably Been Regrowing All Along, But It Can’t Catch Up: What is happening right now is that you’re in the middle of a cycle in which your hairs keep going into the resting phase and then shedding out once again. This really doesn’t have much to do with your regrowth process. It’s actually happening but it just can’t keep up. You have probably been regrowing hair all along, only to shed it out again. If your loss was due to androgens or DHT, then this cycle would be a bit different. You’d have AGA instead, and AGA does commonly affect both the quality or quantity of your regrowth, but chronic telogen effluvium generally does not (unless it has gone on for so long that it has kicked off AGA or has started to affect or thwart your follicles.)

In some cases, losing this much hair this fast will cause some inflammation of the scalp which can affect your follicles and your regrowth. If this is the case, there is a lot that you can do to soothe and to heal the scalp. Still, this alone is not going to help as much as it should if you can’t stop this cycle from continuing to repeat itself. Your first priority should be to find your trigger and then to treat it once and for all, with an eye toward prevention from recurrence. Once you’ve back to stable levels of hair loss, then you can address stimulating your scalp and reducing any inflammation so that your regrowth will be quick, vigorous, healthy, and thick.

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Wind-Kissed Skin: Tips on Avoiding Windburn on a Ski Vacation




Aside from the possibility of getting caught in the middle of an avalanche and getting a frostbite during your ski vacation, here’s another threat that you should avoid: windburn. So what exactly is a windburn?

Windburn is the redness of the skin caused by long exposure to strong and cold winds for extended period of time. The cold air allows the wind to easily break down the fat molecules (oil) that maintain the normal moisture in your skin. As a result, the skin turns dry and irritated. Skin also becomes more sensitive to products. It commonly occurs on the face but it can happen to any exposed part of your body.

Signs and Symptoms

Windburn is characterized by the irritation of the skin manifested in the redness of the face and other parts of the body such as neck and hands. It can look and feel like sunburn. Sometimes, the skin can seem swollen and feel very itchy and/or sore. It usually last for a few days because it causes much less skin damage.

However, if the irritation lasts longer, consult your doctor to avoid another skin condition such as rosacea. Rosacea is a skin disease that can mimic windburn and characterized by various forms of facial redness due to the enlargement and widening of blood vessels beneath the surface of the skin.

Who might be the victims of sunburn?

Those who are involved in winter sports such as skiers, snowboarders, and ice skaters are most likely to experience windburn. Being exposed to cold, dry, brisk wind at high altitudes increases the possibility of severe windburn.

People who live in warm climates don’t usually experience windburn, however sudden exposure to cold dry winds on vacations or during a sudden weather change may increase the odds.

What are the ways to prevent it?

First, keep your skin covered. Wear a scarf or neck warmers for your neck and chin, mittens to protect your hands, a hat or headband for your ears and a face mask for your nose cheeks, and forehead.

Second, if you plan to go out for a long time, wear some moisturizing sunblock to protect you from both sun and windburn. Don’t forget to moisten your lips too, with an SPF lip moisturizer. Apply sunscreen to your skin and lips every two hours.

Third, check weather reports and know the wind-chill factor before going out. If the weather is extremely cold, then don’t stay outside far too long.

Fourth, if it happens, apply lotion about four times a day. Make sure those lotions are without fragrance or acidic ingredients to avoid further irritation. If your skin begins to peel, resist the urge to pick at your skin and continue to moisturize. In cleaning the affected area, choose a mild cleanser to keep the natural moisture in your skin. If your condition is not getting any better, best to consult your doctor.

Are you ready for your ski vacation? With these helpful tips, your vacation will surely be windburn-free.

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Anti-Aging Skin Care Facial Toner Benefits




The importance of facial toner in an anti aging skin care regimen:

Using a facial toner is a necessary part in one’s daily anti aging skin care routine, the important step between cleansing and moisturizing.

The most common method for applying a toner is to dab some on a cotton ball and apply it to your face and neck after cleansing. Some products come in a variety of spritzing sprays and pre-soaked pads.

Face skin care -Purpose of a toner

The purpose of using a toner is first to remove any cleansing residue, dirt, excess oil, make-up, dead skin cells, and any debris that the cleanser did not take away.

Toner also restores the skin’s PH balance and helps prep your skin to accept moisturizers and any other serum or anti age treatment.

Facial skin care -benefits of facial toners

In addition, many facial toners will tighten your pores while helping to reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles.

A quality toner will also unclog pores, improve the over-all skin tone, increase circulation, and hydrate your skin promoting a healthy glowing skin.

Toner Tips

  • Very beneficial for oily skin and acne -controls oil and removes unwanted shine.
  • Look for toners that are alcohol- free, as alcohol is ultra drying and harsh to the skin.
  • Toners come in many blends-Some include beneficial essential oils and herbal extracts.

Some people swear by toners, but many skin care experts do not. The choice is yours – If you like the way your skin feels and looks – use it and Enjoy.

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What Does it Mean If Hair Falls Out Every Time You Brush, Wash, Or Run Your Fingers Through It?




I often hear from folks who notice that they are losing hair every time they manipulate it. In other words, any time they are participating in normal maintenance like shampooing, brushing, combing, or just pulling their hair back or running their fingers through it, quite a bit of strands come out as the result.

The truth is, most people don’t pay all that much attention or take inventory of their hair until something changes with it. Usually, people will notice that suddenly, they’re seeing a lot of spent strands that they’ve not noticed before. It’s typically only then will they begin to ask themselves how many hairs they would typically lose. For example, if they’re seeing a bunch of fallen strands in their brush, they might wonder how many were there before. Of, if they run their fingers through their hands and come away with 4 in that same hand, they’ll wonder what their normal levels were before they saw this change.

After a while, most people realize that they’re definitely seeing is an increase in what is typical for them and they wonder what has changed to make this happen. In the following article, I’ll discuss why you might be seeing an increase of hair coming out when you manipulate it.

When You’re Loosing Hair While Manipulating It, It’s Usually Not The Manipulation That’s The Problem: Sometimes, I have people who ask me if perhaps they should change shampoos, brushes, or the method with which they put up or style their hair. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be gentle to your hair and scalp. But frankly, people who aren’t actively shedding or having hair loss don’t really have to worry about how they care for their hair because their’s isn’t coming out.

A healthy strand which is deeply embedded in your scalp and being actively nourished is not going to pull or fall out just because you comb, brush, wash, or manipulate it. Yes, the manipulation can make it come out at that time, but it’s highly likely that the same strand was either put in the shedding phase or is being negatively affected by androgens or some sort of inflammatory reaction. This means that it’s life cycle was over and it was going to come out at some point anyway. The key to stopping the excess hair loss or shedding often lies not in trying not to manipulate your hair, but in figuring out what caused this change in your hair cycle or scalp and then addressing that head on.

Reasons Why You Might Be Seeing More Hair Fall Than What You’re Used To: Seeing excess hair coming out during brushing, styling or washing often rises to the level of shedding. There are many possible reasons for this such as one of the effluviums (telogen or chronic,) autoimmune conditions, medical conditions, or reactions to medications, hormonal changes, or stress. You can also have some shedding with yeast overgrowth or scalp issues or infections. The treatments for this range from time to topicals to medical intervention. But in most cases, keeping the scalp clean and keeping inflammation down can help some.

Sometimes, a person can have aggressive AGA (androgenic alopecia) that can look like shedding or telogen effluvium but it is driven by a reaction or sensitivity to androgens. The scalp is struggling to support healthy hair so the hair cycles can shorten or change. Additionally with androgen issues and AGA, the regrowth is miniaturized so you’re often dealing with both hair loss and shedding as well as eventual compromised regrowth.

It’s normal to lose small amounts of hair when you manipulate it. Specialists will tell you that it can be normal to loose up to 100 strands per day depending on how much hair you start with and where you are in your hair cycles. But, if you’re noticing shed hairs every time you touch or manipulate it and you have the feeling that this isn’t normal, then it can make a lot of sense to have it checked out and educate yourself about hair issues. I’m certainly not a doctor or specialist, but this type of shedding could be potentially indicate that you’re dealing with a hair or medical issue that could benefit from early intervention.

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Solve Skin Sagging – Tips On How To Get Firmer Skin




Our skin cannot remain firm and elastic forever. In fact, it can easily turn saggy because of excessive weight loss, rapid loss of collagen and the daily effects of environmental aging elements.

If you want to solve skin sagging, you should try the following tips:

1. Prevent skin dryness right away.

If you see the first signs of skin dryness, immediately whip out your moisturizer and apply some on your dermis. The skin gets damaged easily because of the loss of moisture. Supplying moisture to the dermis can also help bring back the elastic functions of your integumentary system.

Look for an anti aging moisturizer made up of CynergyTK, Phytessence Wakame and Nano Lipobelle HEQ10. CynergyTK is an ingredient that has been extracted from the wool of sheep. It is one of the best sources of keratin. Keratin is a functional protein responsible for the production of collagen. Phytessence Wakame is a sea kelp that can help preserve healthy levels of hyaluronic acid. This acid is needed to lubricate collagen. When collagen fibers are properly lubricated, they do not get damaged easily. Nano Lipobelle HEQ10 is also vital because of its ability to prevent cellular damage. This antioxidant works deeper into the skin to fight harmful free ranging radicals.

2. Try massaging your skin upward.

Since the skin tissues are already fragile, you wouldn’t want to inadvertently damage them by tugging them aggressively. Use your lightest fingers when applying your moisturizer. Apply the product using an upward motion to lift the saggy areas of your dermis.

3. Try facial yoga.

Yoga is an anti aging treatment. It actually helps tone the dermis to make it less susceptible to wrinkles. In addition to that, it helps release the tension in muscles. You can also use yoga to tone your facial skin if it is starting to look saggy.

Try a few facial yoga exercises that can target the saggy areas around your eyes, cheeks and jaw.

4. Increase your intake of foods rich in amino acids.

Amino acids are the building blocks of keratin and other complex proteins. They are needed to produce more collagen in the body. One of the reasons why the amount of collagen in your body declines is because of the insufficient intake of foods rich in amino acids.

That being said, you have to make a few changes in your diet. Make sure that you eat lean meat, dairy products, vegetables and nuts daily.

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Nopal Cactus Juice Is Helping Many People Experience Better Wellness – Find Out How




A cactus with sharp spines is helping many people experience better wellness. How could that happen?

If you have ever bumped into a cactus, you will remember it well! I am sure this would not help your health but would be a painful experience. The plant is protected by its sharp spines from the animals of the Sonoran Desert seeking it’s fruit and water sources. It seems that these cactus plants have also protected a secret. A secret discovered by ancient medicine men in the deserts of the southwest ages ago. Even though people of today seem smarter, many have been injured by these spines before discovering the secret held by the cactus. An important addition to our health has been protected by these sharp spines for so long and now is available to you.

How can this cactus help you? People are interested in natural ways to keep their body healthy. People that are interested in becoming healthier, reducing dangerous inflammation and improving their overall health should look into the secrets found in this cactus fruit.

The ingredients from the Nopal cactus fruit that benefit your body the most are called Betalains.

Betalains are what make the Nopal cactus fruit so special. These unique powerful ingredients are natures anti inflammatory ingredients. What if these powerful ingredients were combined with other natural anti inflammatory ingredients such as strawberry, kiwi, cranberry, raspberry, papaya, mango, pomegranate, pineapple, grape,and lemon?

This special cactus fruit is what seems to make a positive difference in people’s health. However, even knowing that a juice is composed with nopal cactus fruit and contains betalains may not help you to understand how this cactus fruit would be beneficial to you. To fully understand the benefits of the nopal cactus fruit you will need to know what these anti-oxidant betalains are and how these betalains can benefit your health.

Betalains are known as a type of powerful antioxidants. Betalains were first discovered for pigments,their color and dyeing properties. The beautiful bright pink color of the Nopal cactus fruit is created from these betalains. These powerful betalains work as an anti-inflammatory agent, a pain relieving agent and are also known as a powerful detoxifying antioxidant. Antioxidants are well known for their detoxification properties. These betalains that are known as a special class of antioxidants seem to be very rare in nature and other foods. These betalain antioxidants are found in the nopal cactus fruit. If you are interested in a juice that brings about several health benefits from these betalains that have been scientifically proven, please read on.

There are a number of plants that contain betalains: these are beets, swiss chard, and the Nopal cactus fruit. This cactus fruit has been tested and contains all 24 betalains that are known to man. By drinking these natural ingredients, you can acquire the betalains and nutrients your body needs quickly. When consumed in a liquid form these powerful betalain antioxidants can immediately start helping your body. Your body will get the essential nutrients and betalain antioxidants as quickly as possible. Betalains will also help your body to reduce any chronic inflammation, which can lead to disease and other major health problems. Independent research shows that Nopal cactus fruit juice can help your body to reduce the risk of blood clots, can help your body to reduce bad cholesterol, can help your body protect its cells from toxins, and can help your body protect it’s liver. Obviously there are many benefits that can come from this cactus fruit. The antioxidant betalains in the nopal cactus juice can bring you benefits that you will not get in any other way. This can help you with your important plan to keep your body healthy.

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Tips On How To Properly Exfoliate Dry And Dull Skin




Our skin is exposed to a myriad of external aging factors. These external aging factors can make our complexion dull and sallow. In addition to that, our own body purges out dead skin cells. Cleansing alone cannot get rid of dead skin cells. They usually hold on to the wall of the pores of your skin.

If you want to solve dry and dull skin problems, you should regularly exfoliate your dermis. Let me tell you a couple of tips on how to exfoliate properly:

1. Try using exfoliating enzymes. These enzymes are usually found in yellow or orange-colored fruits and vegetables such as papaya, pumpkin and pineapple. If you have left-over ripe and mushy pumpkin at home, blend it. Add brown sugar for an extra exfoliating effect.

Exfoliating enzymes work in breaking down the component that bonds dead cells to the walls of your pores. This way, you can easily get rid of dead cells and make your skin look instantly brighter.

2. Citrus fruits have natural exfoliating properties. Our skin is naturally acidic. That being said, acidic treatments work in correcting common dermis problems. Citric acid is a good choice because it works well in removing dead skin cells and facilitating a renewal of dermis tissues.

I highly recommend lime and lemon juice as exfoliants. Try mixing the juice of lime or lemon with honey. Apply it on your damp skin. Leave it there for 30 minutes. Wash it off with lukewarm water.

3. Milk can actually help strip away unwanted gunk and dead cells on the surface of your dermis. In fact, this can also facilitate a mild peeling action. This way, younger and healthier tissues can be pushed to the surface of the dermis. Apply milk on your clean skin. Let it sit there for about an hour before washing it off.

4. Exfoliate damp skin. Do not apply the mixture on dry skin as the abrasive particles might chafe the surface layers of the dermis. If you are applying it on dry skin, make sure that the scrub contains hydrating ingredients like olive oil or honey.

After scrubbing your dermis, immediately moisturize. Pat your skin dry and apply a hydrating moisturizer. Look for a moisturizer with CynergyTK, Phytessence Wakame and Nano Lipobelle HEQ10.

CynergyTK is an ingredient that has been taken from sheep wool. It is a good source of functional keratin. This is the protein needed by the dermis for better collagen growth. Phytessence Wakame is also essential because of its ability to prevent the loss of hyaluronic acid. This acid is vital for the lubrication of collagen fibers. Nano Lipobelle HEQ10 is an antioxidant. It can penetrate up to the deepest layer of the dermis to fight free radicals.

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Melaleuca Review – Can You Prosper With the Wellness Company?




In this Melaleuca review we shall establish the truth of this program and whether or not you can profit using it. Melaleuca claims to be the ‘Wellness Company’, and although it claims not to be a network marketing business, you need a good downline to make reasonable income. In saying that, however, it does appear to be an honest business and not a fly-by-night ready to fold once it has our cash.

Let’s have a look at the various factors that that Melaleuca what it is:

Melaleuca Review: The Founder and the Company

You can often get a reasonable idea of the genuine worth of a business from its founder. Frank VanderSloot had been CEO of the MLM business ‘Oil of Melaleuca’ when he founded this company in 1985. Unfortunately, this company failed, but VanderSloot believed that had taught him some valuable lessons, and decided to buy the old company’s stocks.

After doing so he offered the distributors of the old business the chance to move over with him, but only around 50% took up his offer. His new business changed the way distributors were compensated to rewarding only those who performed well – as it should be. It is now a growing business and sales of its products are increasing. So what are these products?

Melaleuca Review: The Products

The products are varied and claimed to be 100% natural. They range from vitamins and supplements to beauty products, dental products, hair care and per products, each claimed to be manufactured only from natural and sustainable raw materials and containing no added chemicals. The company also offers cleaning products, breakfast cereals and over 400 others that you will use daily.

These wellness products are not luxuries, but part of your everyday shopping and less expensive than store-bought products. They are very popular with those that use them and appear to do the job they are designed to do. There are no complaints about the products, therefore, unlike many MLM programs where the product is secondary to the registration fees and downlines. Here, you must sell to add wealth to the business and to yourself.

Melaleuca Compensation Plan

To make a decent income with the Melaleuca program, you must recruit people to your downline, and continue to do so because it pays only seven deep. That of course is what network marketing is about – recruitment, and each one must learn the Melaleuca way from their video. Here comes the first problem:

You earn nothing for recruiting people! You get paid only when your recruits sell – which from the company view is reasonable enough. That is why the original program failed, and was one of the changes that Frank VanderSloot made when he took it over. In effect, this has become more genuine of an opportunity, since sales must be made before anybody can be paid. That sounds reasonable to me, if not to those more used to the type of MLM business that thrives from registration fees rather than product sales.

You get 7% of customer sales – that’s $7 for every $100 product purchased. Since customers tend to stay with the company, this is generally a recurring income. You also get paid 7% down 7 levels of your downline, so a total of 14% is paid out to members of the program. That is 7% to you and 7% to the person that recruited you. This does not reduce down the line as most MLM programs do.

You can grow as many downlines as you want, so you can build up a good income by actively marketing the network marketing program rather than direct sales. You can also earn money through a number of bonuses offered for specific customer types and how well your downline members are doing.

Melaleuca Review: Summary

Melaleuca offer genuine products with a good USP and it should not be difficult to persuade consumers to purchase their products. They also have a reasonable compensation plan to 7 levels through multiple downlines. However, there is one curious proviso to this: you cannot recruit through links or replicated websites.

You must learn the presentation and then give it your prospect on a one-to-one basis at a pre-scheduled time and date. You must therefore recruit by personal contact so you cannot enable people to join automatically online. The presentation can be online or offline, but it must be on a personal basis.

All in all the Melaleuca products are good, the compensation is reasonable and the over company is genuine with a good future. Whether you like the method of recruitment, or can make enough money to make it worthwhile is up to you.

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