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Prevent Bullies Before They Become Prisoners – 60% of Bullies Have 1 Conviction by Age 24

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A ten-year-old boy is told repeatedly that he is a “weakling” and a “girly man,” yelled at and teased in a tone of voice tinged with disgust and disdain. Is this bullying? What if it leads to a fist fight? How do you know when someone crosses the line between cruel teasing and bullying? Does emotional bullying have any “real” physical consequences? And perhaps, most importantly, if you are dealing with a true bully, what do you do about it? Let’s start by figuring out what bullying is and then move on to what the consequences are and the best ways to deal with it.

Bullying Defined

Bullying takes place when a one or more kids repeatedly harass, intimidate, hit, or ignore another youngster who is physically weaker, smaller or has a lower social status. Realize that adults can also engage in bullying, particularly what I call emotional bullying. However, today we’ll focus on young people.

Note that a single fistfight between two kids of similar size and social power is not bullying; neither is the occasional teasing.

Physical bullying is seen in both boys and girls, but it is more common among boys. Girls typically use emotional bullying more so than boys. Bullying can take a number of forms.

o Bullying can be physical (hitting, shoving, or taking money or belongings) or emotional (Causing fear by threats, insults and/or exclusion from conversations or activities).

o Boys tend to use physical intimidation (hitting or threatening to hit) as well as insults, and they often act one-on-one. Girls are more likely to bully in groups by using the silent treatment towards another girl or gossiping about her.

o Kids are often bullied through putdowns about their appearance, such as being teased about being different than other children or for the way they talk, dress, their size, their appearance and so on. Making fun of children’s religion or race occurs far less frequently. 1

Bullying begins in elementary school and is most common in middle school; it fades but not completely in high school. It usually occurs in school areas that are not well supervised by teachers or other adults, such as on playgrounds, lunch rooms, and bathrooms. Much of it takes place after school at a location known to students and unsupervised by adults. When I was in middle school, there was a Christmas tree farm where all fights took place. When I was a psych at a middle school, there was a dry creek bed nearby where fights took place. There is always a certain spot that is well known to the students where altercations occur. One way to prevent bullying is to be aware of this spot and police it regularly after school. And realize that the spot will move as soon as the adults become aware of it.

Bullying is aggressive behavior that is intended to cause harm or distress, occurs repeatedly over time, and occurs in a relationship in which there is an imbalance of power or strength. Bullying can take many forms, including physical violence, teasing and name-calling, intimidation, and social exclusion. It can be related to hostile acts perpetrated against racial and ethnic minorities, gay, lesbian, and bi-sexual youth, and persons with disabilities.

Ninety percent of 4th through 8th graders report being victims of some form of bullying at some time in their past. Boys are typically more physically aggressive (physical bullying), whereas girls rely more on social exclusion, teasing, and cliques (verbal or emotional bullying). Bullying can also take the form of cyber communication, e.g., via email (cyber bullying). It is estimated that one in four boys who bully will have a criminal record by age 30.

Who are the bullies?

Children who regularly bully their peers tend to be impulsive, easily frustrated, dominant in personality, have difficulty conforming to rules, view violence positively and are more likely to have friends who are also bullies. Boys who bully are usually physically stronger than their peers.

Moreover, several risk factors have been associated with bullying, including individual, family, peer, school, and community factors. With respect to family factors, children are more likely to bully if there is a lack of warmth and parent involvement, lack of parental supervision, and harsh corporal discipline. Some research suggests a link between bullying behavior and child maltreatment. Also, schools that lack adequate adult supervision tend to have more instances of bullying.

Psychological research has debunked several myths associated with bullying, including one that states bullies are usually the most unpopular students in school. A 2000 study by psychologist Philip Rodkin, PhD, and colleagues involving fourth-through-sixth-grade boys found that highly aggressive boys may be among the most popular and socially connected children in elementary classrooms, as viewed by their fellow students and even their teachers. Another myth is that the tough and aggressive bullies are basically anxious and insecure individuals who use bullying as a means of compensating for poor self-esteem. Using a number of different methods including projective tests and stress hormones, Olweus concludes that there is no support for such a view. Most bullies had average or better than average self-esteem.

Who is being bullied?

Children who are bullied are often cautious, sensitive, insecure, socially isolated, and have difficulty asserting themselves among their peers. Boys who are bullied tend to be physically weaker than their peers. Children who have been victims of child abuse (neglect, physical, or sexual abuse) or who have disabilities are also more likely to be bullied by their peers.

How common is bullying?

In 2002, it was reported that 17 percent of students reported having been bullied “sometimes” or more frequently during the school term. About 19 percent reported bullying others “sometimes” or more often. And six percent reported both bullying and having been bullied. However, in a 2003 study from UCLA, it was reported that almost 50% of sixth graders in two Los Angeles-area public schools report being bullied by classmates during a five-day period.

New research from the Secret Service and the U.S. Department of Education on 37 school shootings, including Columbine, found that almost three-quarters of student shooters felt bullied, threatened, attacked or injured by others. In fact, several shooters reported experiencing long-term and severe bullying and harassment from their peers.

What’s more, roughly 45% of teachers report having bullied a student in their past. This comes from a 2006 study which defined bullying “using power to punish, manipulate, or disparage a student beyond what would be a reasonable disciplinary procedure.”

The effects of bullying

Bullying exerts long-term and short-term psychological effects on both bullies and their victims. Bullying behavior has been linked to other forms of antisocial behavior, such as vandalism, shoplifting, skipping and dropping out of school, fighting, and the use of drugs and alcohol.

Victims of bullying experience loneliness and often suffer humiliation, insecurity, loss of self-esteem, and thoughts of suicide. Furthermore, bullying can interfere with a student’s engagement and learning in school. The impact of frequent bullying often accompanies these victims into adulthood. A study done in 2003 found that emotional bullying such as repeated name-calling has as much of a damaging impact on well-being as being beat up. Dr. Stephen Joseph, from the University of Warwick, states, “Bullying and particularly name calling can be degrading for adolescents. Posttraumatic stress is an anxiety disorder that can develop after exposure to a frightening event or ordeal in which physical harm occurred or was threatened, and research clearly suggests that it can be caused by bullying. It is important that peer victimization is taken seriously as symptoms such as insomnia, anxiety and depression are common amongst victims and have a negative impact on psychological health.”

As with smoking and drinking, youthful bullying can have serious long-term effects. Norwegian psychologist Dan Olweus, PhD, for example, reported in “Bullying at School: What We Know and What We Can Do” (Blackwell, 1993) that 60 percent of boys who bully had at least one conviction by age 24, and 40 percent had three or more convictions.

Other studies found that about 20 percent of American middle school children say they bully others sometimes. Such youngsters tend to have multiple problems: They’re more likely to fight, steal, drink, smoke, carry weapons and drop out of school than non-bullies.

That said, recent research has exploded some common myths about bullies: in particular, that they’re isolated loners with low self-esteem. In fact, many bullies are reasonably popular and tend to have “henchmen” who aid their negative behaviors.

New and innovative research

A nationally representative study of 15,686 students in grades six through 10, published last year in the Journal of the American Medical Association (Vol. 285, No. 16) is among the most recent to document the scope of bullying in U.S. schools. This study found that:

* Bullying occurs most frequently from sixth to eighth grade, with little variation between urban, suburban, town and rural areas.

* Males are more likely to be bullies and victims of bullying than females. Males are more likely to be physically bullied, while females are more likely to be verbally or psychologically bullied.

* Bullies and victims of bullying have difficulty adjusting to their environments, both socially and psychologically. Victims of bullying have greater difficulty making friends and are lonelier.

* Bullies are more likely to smoke and drink alcohol, and to be poorer students.

* Bully-victims–students who are both bullies and recipients of bullying–tend to experience social isolation, to do poorly in school and to engage in problem behaviors such as smoking and drinking.

In the past, bullying behavior was looked at in an either/or fashion – either you are a bully or you are a victim. However, some children report that they’re both a bully and a victim at different times.

Bully-victims experience higher levels of depression and anxiety than the bully-only group or the victim-only group. Those who fall into the bully-victim subgroup are more troubled in terms of internal problems. They carry a great deal of anger, fear and sadness within them and don’t have any tools to release it.

Studies have shown that, despite thinking they know how to identify bullies, teachers aren’t all that good at actually doing so. Administrators and teachers in schools overestimate their effectiveness in identifying and intervening in bullying situations.

This can have troubling implications. For example, to contain costs, some schools hold intervention programs in group settings. If bully-victims are in the group, they may cause problems for students who are solely victims. It’s more productive for bully-victims to be treated separately.

Mediation programs for bullies and victims are also problematic. Peer mediation may be appropriate in resolving conflict between students with equal power, but bullying is a type of victimization. Just as child abuse is a form of victimization between parties of unequal power, so too is bullying.

Solutions for bullying

Many anti-bullying programs don’t use research and are thus are likely to fail. Those that work off the myth that the root of bullying is low self-esteem may produce more confident bullies but they probably won’t have a significant effect on any bullying behavior.

What’s more, the common approach of grouping bullies together for group counseling tends to increases their bullying. You’ve just put them in a peer group of bullies who reinforce their destructive behaviors.

And conflict resolution or mediation–which assumes equal power between bullies and their victims–may retraumatize those who have been bullied. Pop treatments usually fail because they focus on only one aspect of the problem.

Bullying is a complex problem. There are multiple reasons for bullying. Successful programs take a holistic approach to preventing bullying. This means that they create new school norms for acceptable behavior, involving all facets of the school–students, parents and teachers, psychologists and more.

Global buffers to protect against bullying

Indeed, key to the success of any intervention is appropriate adult guidance and support, presenters agreed. Adults supervise their children about 40 percent less than they did 30 years ago, statistics show, and this and related phenomena have been correlated with problem behaviors. The trend, they added, occurs at a time when teens report wanting more parental attention and family time.

Research shows that parents can be effective interventionists. In a 2001 article, when parents learned to effectively communicate information on binge drinking to their pre-college teens, the young people returned from their first semester of college significantly less likely to drink than a control group.

Teaching your children emotional intelligence (EQ), or how to manage one’s emotions, results in less illicit drug use and far less physical violence. Those with lower EI had more substance abuse problems and more frequent fights.

The biggest challenge for teens is to develop the self-regulatory abilities implied by high EQ, and that adults can aid in that process. That’s why I’m always talking to you about how to identify your emotions, reminding you to breathe deeply, stressing the importance of journaling, prayer, exercise, yoga, meditation and so on. These are all ways to become more aware of your emotions, so you can in turn manage your emotions more effectively. It’s all about emotional intelligence folks.

Parents must also be involved in their children’s lives and intervene in a supportive and empathetic nature if they believe their child or another child is being bullied. To help prevent bullying, parents should enforce clear and concise behavioral guidelines and reward children for positive, inclusive behavior. Furthermore, parents should seek assistance from the school’s principal, teachers, and counselors if concerns regarding their child’s or another child’s behavior arises.

Sometimes bullying is easy to spot–a child pushing another on the playground or shoving a classmate’s face into the water fountain. Other times bullying is less overt–children spreading rumors, teasing peers or excluding a classmate from games at recess. This veiled type of bullying–known as relational or covert aggression–can be harder for parents and teachers to see and prevent. What’s more, previous research suggests that relational aggression increases and intensifies as children get older and become more emotionally and socially sophisticated.

Studies report that the rates of aggression are rising in middle school girls. “It’s always been the case that we expect rates of aggression and delinquency to increase for boys, while girls were considered somewhat protected,” said Julia Graber, a UF psychologist who did the research. “In this study, it’s clear that the differences between girls and boys are diminishing.”

Unlike boys, girls in the study reported feeling increasing amounts of anger between sixth and seventh grades, she said. Both groups reported a decline in self-control.

The study of 1,229 students at 22 public and parochial schools in New York City found that the proportion of girls committing five or more aggressive acts in a month, such as “hitting someone” or “pushing or shoving someone on purpose” jumped from 64 percent to 81 percent between sixth and seventh grades. For boys, it rose from 69 percent to 78 percent.

“Girls’ entry into adolescence is generally thought of as a vulnerable time for depression, and studies tend to focus on girls’ emotional experiences with sadness and depressed moods,” Graber said. “What’s interesting about this study is that we see an increase in a different negative emotional experience, and that’s anger.”

Bullying among primary school age children has become recognized as an antecedent to more violent behavior in later grades. Statistics on violence in our country tell a grim story with a clear message. Some children learn how to dominate others by foul means rather than by fair, setting a pattern for how they will behave as adults (bullies). Other children are more easily dominated, suffer miserably, often in silence, and develop a victim mentality that they may be unable to over-come as adults (victims). Action is needed to end purposeful harassment, and bullying.

Signs that a child is being bullied

Children who are being bullied may be embarrassed to talk about what is going on. Parents (or other adults) may notice signs that point to bullying. Your child may:

o Have scrapes, bruises or other signs of physical injury.

o Come home from school without some belongings such as clothes, or money.

o Come home from school quite hungry, saying they lost his or her lunch.

o Develop ongoing physical problems, such as headaches or stomachaches.

o Have sleep disturbances and nightmares.

o Pretend to be sick or make other excuses to avoid school or other situations.

o Change their behavior, such as withdrawing, becoming sad, angry or aggressive.

o Cry often.

o Become more fearful when certain people or situations are mentioned.

o See a sudden drop in grades or have more difficulty learning new material.

o Talk about suicide as a way out.

How to help the child who is being bullied

The key to helping your child deal with bullying is to help him or her regain a sense of dignity and recover damaged self-esteem. To help ward off bullies, give your child these tips:

o Hold the anger (temporarily). It’s natural to want to get really angry with a bully, but that’s exactly the response the bully is aiming for. Not only will getting angry or aggressive not solve the problem, it will only make it worse. Bullies want to know they have control over your child’s emotions. Each time they get a reaction from your child, it adds fuel to the bully’s fire – getting angry just makes the bully feel more powerful. Remind your child that anyone that makes you angry has control over you. Help your child work at staying calm through deep breathing and turning their attention to more pleasant thoughts while being picked on.

o Never get physical or bully back. Emphasize that your child should never use physical force (like kicking, hitting, or pushing) to deal with a bully. Not only does that show anger, your child can never be sure what the bully will do in response. Tell your child that it’s best to hang out with others, stay safe, and get help from an adult.

o Act brave, walk away, and ignore the bully. Tell your child to look the bully in the eye and say something like, “I want you to stop right now.” Counsel your child to then walk away and ignore any further taunts. Encourage your child to “walk tall” and hold his or her head up high (using this type of body language sends a message that your child isn’t vulnerable). Bullies thrive on the reaction they get, and by walking away, or ignoring hurtful emails or instant messages, your child will be telling the bully that he or she just doesn’t care. Sooner or later, the bully will probably get bored with trying to bother your child.

o Use humor. If your child is in a situation in which he or she has to deal with a bully and can’t walk away with poise, tell him or her to use humor or give the bully a compliment to throw the bully off guard. However, tell your child not to use humor to make fun of the bully.

o Tell an adult. If your child is being bullied, emphasize that it’s very important to tell an adult. Teachers, principals, parents, and lunchroom personnel at school can all help to stop it. Studies show that schools where principals crack down on this type of behavior have less bullying.

o Talk about it. It may help your child to talk to a guidance counselor, teacher, or friend – anyone who can give your child the support he or she needs. Talking can be a good outlet for the fears and frustrations that can build when your child is being bullied.

o Use the buddy system. Enlisting the help of friends or a group may help both your child and others stand up to bullies. The bully wants to be recognized and feel powerful, after all, so a lot of bullying takes part in the presence of peers. If the bully is picking on another child, tell your child to point out to the bully that his or her behavior is unacceptable and is no way to treat another person. This can work especially well in group situations (i.e., when a member of your child’s circle of friends starts to pick on or shun another member). Tell your child to make a plan to buddy up with a friend or two on the way to school, on the bus, in the hallways, or at recess or lunch – wherever your child thinks he or she might meet the bully. Tell your child to offer to do the same for a friend who’s having trouble with a bully. When one person speaks out against a bully, it gives others license to add their support and take a stand, too. o Develop more friendships by joining social organizations, clubs, or sports programs. Encourage regular play visits with other children at your home. Being in a group with other kids may help to build your child’s self-esteem and give your child a larger group of positive peers to spend time with and turn to.

Of course, you may have to intervene in persistent cases of bullying. That can involve walking to school with your child and talking to your child’s teacher, school counselor, or principal. Safety should be everyone’s concern. If you’ve tried the previous methods and still feel the need to speak to the bullying child’s parents, it’s best to do so within the context of the school, where a school official, such as a counselor, can mediate.

If your child is the bully

Learning that your child is a bully can be shocking. But it’s important to remain calm and avoid becoming defensive, as that can make a bad situation worse. You may have a greater impact if you express disappointment – not anger – to your child.

Because bullying often stems from unhappiness or insecurity, try to find out if something is bothering your child. Children who bully aren’t likely to confess to their behavior, but you’ll need to try to get your child to talk by asking some specific, hard-hitting questions, such as:

o How do you feel about yourself?

o How do you think things are going at school and at home?

o Are you being bullied?

o Do you get along with other kids at school?

o How do you treat other children?

o What do you think about being considered a bully?

o Why do you think you’re bullying?

o What might help you to stop bullying?

To get to the bottom of why your child is hurting others, you may also want to schedule an appointment to talk to your child’s school counselor or another mental health professional (your child’s doctor should be able to refer you to someone).

If you suspect that your child is a bully, it’s important to address the problem to try to mend your child’s mean ways. After all, bullying is violence, and it often leads to more antisocial and violent behavior as the bully grows up. In fact, as many as one out of four elementary school bullies have a criminal record by the time they’re 30.

Helping your child stop bullying

Although not all bullying stems from family problems, it’s a good idea to examine the behavior and personal interactions your child witnesses at home. If your child lives with taunting or name-calling from a sibling or from you or another parent, it could be prompting aggressive or hurtful behavior outside the home. What may seem like innocent teasing at home may actually model bullying behaviors. Children who are on the receiving end of it learn that bullying can translate into control over children they perceive as weak.

Constant teasing – whether it’s at home or at school – can also affect a child’s self-esteem. Children with low self-esteem can grow to feel emotionally insecure. They can also end up blaming others for their own shortcomings. Making others feel bad (bullying) can give them a sense of power.

Of course, there will be moments that warrant constructive criticism: for example, “I counted on you to put out the trash and because you forgot, we’ll all have to put up with that stench in the garage for a week.” But take care not to let your words slip into criticizing the person rather than the behavior: “You’re so lazy. I bet you just pretend to forget your chores, so you don’t have to get your hands dirty.” Focus on how the behavior is unacceptable, rather than the person. Home should be a safe haven, where children aren’t subjected to uncomfortable, harsh criticism from family and loved ones.

In addition to maintaining a positive home atmosphere, there are a number of ways you can encourage your child to give up bullying:

o Emphasize that bullying is a serious problem. Make sure your child understands you will not tolerate bullying and that bullying others will have consequences at home. For example, if your child is cyber bullying, take away the technologies he or she is using to torment others (i.e., computer, cell phone to text message or send pictures). Or instruct your child to use the Internet to research bullying and note strategies to reduce the behavior. Other examples of disciplinary action include restricting your child’s curfew if the bullying and/or teasing occur outside of the home; taking away privileges, but allowing the opportunity to earn them back; and requiring your child to do volunteer work to help those less fortunate.

o Teach your child to treat people who are different with respect and kindness. Teach your child to embrace, not ridicule, differences (i.e., race, religion, appearance, special needs, gender, economic status). Explain that everyone has rights and feelings.

o Find out if your child’s friends are also bullying. If so, seek a group intervention through your child’s principal, school counselor, and/or teachers.

o Set limits. Stop any show of aggression immediately and help your child find nonviolent ways to react.

o Observe your child interacting with others and praise appropriate behavior. Positive reinforcement is more powerful than negative discipline.

o Talk with school staff and ask how they can help your child change his or her bad behavior. Be sure to keep in close contact with the staff.

o Set realistic goals and don’t expect an immediate change. As your child learns to modify his or her behavior, assure your child that you still love him or her – it’s the behavior you don’t like.

Be aware that bullying also takes place between adults, as well as between adults and children. Anywhere there is a power imbalance; there is the risk of bullying. Athletic coaching is a fertile ground for bullying young athletes. As more is learned about bullying and the serious consequences of it, more and more zero tolerance policies will be adopted. Until then, stay aware of subtle cues of bullying in children. The first step is awareness. With greater awareness, bullying can be nipped in the bud.

Dr. John Schinnerer

Educational Psychologist

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Very Cheap Web Hosting – Sure It’s Cheap, But Will it Have the 3 Things You Need?

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Very cheap web hosting is getting easier to find on the market. That’s because there is so much competition that we are in the midst of a web hosting plan price war! But, just because it is cheap doesn’t mean you are getting what you need. Make sure if the web hosting is very cheap, then it has the following 3 things, or else choose another plan.

  1. Good Customer Service? What are users saying about the company on the web? Having good, 24/7 customer service and the ability to talk to a real person is a must when getting a hosting plan. This seems like a “yeah, whatever” type of thing to worry about, but when your site is malfunctioning you want someone to fix it fast!
  2. Unlimited Features? You want to get a plan that is super cheap, but allows unlimited domains to be hosted, unlimited bandwidth, and unlimited memory. This way you won’t have to worry about how many sites you will have, how many visitors will be coming, or how big the websites are. If a company doesn’t offer this, move on.
  3. User Friendly Control Panel? This is very important. The most popular control panel for hosting companies is called a cPanel. Also, within the control panel, are there step by step videos showing you exactly how to do things such as, set up FTP accounts, set up emails, set up stat tracking for websites, installing website building software, etc? This is a must for a good web hosting company. You shouldn’t have to pay a premium for these features.
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Do You Need Dedicated Web Hosting

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There are many types of web hosting that you can choose from these days so why choose a dedicated web host solution. Having your own server means that you are the only one that is allowed to host websites on that server. You get all of the computers processing power and storage space. Plus you get to run your own programs or services on that machine.

Not having to share a server with a dozen or maybe hundreds of other webmasters means that there is much less of a chance for things to go wrong. If you thing of a hundred people trying to do something on a computer as opposed to one person you can imagine what I mean. It only takes on person to install a script incorrectly or get a sudden traffic surge and not only their site goes down but every other site on that server.

With shared hosting you are very limited to what you can do. With your own dedicated server you get SSH or shell access which means you can control everything that goes on with that server.

A dedicated server is a specialist machine that is designed to do one job and one job only and that is to serve your website up to visitors. It has been optimized so that all of its functions are geared towards web hosting.

There are of course more than just one type of dedicated server. Most hosting companies offer several different hosting packages for servers. Your first decision is whether you want to use a Windows based dedicated server or one that is running Linux. This choice will depend on several factors some of which include the type of site you are running. If you have a PHP and MySQL database that needs hosting then your going to need a Linux server. If you have windows based back ends or have certain integration requirement for Microsoft software then you will need a Windows based server.

The next set of considerations are that of the specifications of your server. Do you need a server that is going to be as fast and as powerful as possible or can you get by with a lower cost server that is less powerful. You should consider the storage and bandwidth requirements. The larger the site and the more information you are going to need to store then the bigger the disk space you are going to need. There is no point in under planning and running out of storage space six months down the line.

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Budget Dedicated Server Is Getting More Affordable And Here Is Why

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Dedicated server hosting and the word “budget” used to be polar opposites from one another. Many larger businesses had to move to the dedicated type, and when they did so, there was a bittersweet mixture of joy that one’s business had grown to that level and despair that operating expenses would get out of control. Dedicated platforms were not always cost effective, but they could be essential if one wanted to keep viruses and other impurities from polluting their site and the lives of their users. But all that is in the process of changing for the better thanks to these key areas: more options, changes in business practices, and more efficient infrastructure.

More Options

It used to be that if you needed a business online to run with any success you had to go with a dedicated server. That meant paying for additional infrastructure and in many cases hiring an employee to handle everything for you. It could be very cost prohibitive to small and mid sized businesses. Then along came virtual private servers, and the efficiency of hosting platforms got much better as did the cost. Cloud computing then came along and really turned some heads. With all these options out there, it was only a matter of time before the dedicated option had to work smarter and more cost effectively. But more on that in a moment.

Changes in business practices

With the economic crises of recent years touching virtually everyone, some sites went under while others were forced to make cuts and think about using the web more intelligently. Many banked on the freedoms of Facebook and Twitter and saw a surge in growth and a slicing of expenses. As a result, businesses found new ways to succeed or they finally fell in on themselves. The landscape of the marketplace changed once again, and with it, so too did the efficiency of the dedicated server.

More efficient infrastructure

By offering managed dedicated servers, and the use of multiple dedicated servers across many geographic locations, budget hosting became affordable even for those in need of the more expensive option. As a result businesses started coming back to dedicated, but they did it in a wiser and more cost efficient manner. With the redundancy and speed of multiple servers working at once, it became possible to have the perks of dedicated servers without actually having to rely on one infrastructure foundation.

If your business is growing, you can now rest easy knowing that the move to dedicated server hosting is within your budgeted means. And you really should consider the move as soon as possible for how it protects you and improves the user experience for all of your audience every time they log on.

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How to Make Money Online: 5 Easy Steps I Use to Make $100 Paydays

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Are you looking for another easy way to make money online?

Do you want to know how to make money online?

I use this simple 5 step system to consistently make money online each and every day.

And it is easy to set up even if you are a complete newbie.

I will share with you how this simple 5 step system below so that you can review it for yourself and decide if it can work for you.

I am here to tell you that I regularly make $20 to $100 each and every day using this simple little system that takes no time to set up. All you need is a little bit of understanding of websites and you are off and running. And, if you have any challenges in understanding how to work with basic instructions you can easily get someone to help you to set it up.

Here is my simple and easy to set up money making system that earns money daily.

Step 1: Set up an awesome splash page

A splash page is simply a one page site that has a bit of teaser ad copy and an opt-in box where a visitor who is interested in your offer can leave their name and email address in order to receive what you are offering.

It is easy to set up and can be done in less than an hour.

Step 2: Offer a free quality freebie

Now you offer a free quality freebie.

Once you identify the niche you want to exploit you simply locate or source a free product such as an eBook on the subject or a subscription to some newsletter in the niche.

You can get an eBook or other such product from countless sources online on any niche you care to research. Just make sure that the product comes with PLR or master giveaway rights so that you can distribute it freely.

Step 3: Capture your visitors’ email addresses

When a visitor lands on your splash page (sometimes called a landing page or an opt-in page) they will read your offer and if they are interested in getting that freebie they will have to enter their name and email address in that opt-in box.

They will then immediately be taken to a download page where they can receive their freebie.

And let me also say this… if that freebie eBook has a link in it with one of your affiliate programs embedded in it and they click on it to see your main offer, when they buy you will then receive an affiliate commission instantly!

The more visitors that opt-in to receive their freebie the more that will download that freebie onto their hard drive. When they click on your link whether that is next day, next week, or next month, any purchases made will generate for you that affiliate commission we all seek.

The goal here is to get that freebie onto as many hard drives as you can so that it can sit there and entice your “subscriber” in the future.

Step 4: Provide them value and information over a series of emails

Step your autoresponder with about 12 – 15 quality emails on the target niche and drip feed them that material at the rate of one email every two days. Make sure it is good content and that it is informative for your readers.

For the first three or four emails do not offer any affiliate products because you are building trust with your target audience.

After the fourth email, you can start to introduce an affiliate link in your pre-scheduled emails for an affiliate product you may be promoting. When a subscriber clicks on that link and buys your product you will earn another affiliate commission.

That is all it takes to build your residual income if the product you are promoting is a membership type service that requires a monthly fee to participate.

Step 5: Drive traffic to your opt-in page

This step is simple and yet complicated if you think too much at this stage.

All you have to do is drive traffic to your site.

Sounds simple, right?

It can be.

Just do whatever you can to direct traffic to your site.

If you have a blog, post regular updates.

And remember, it is merely a numbers game. The more traffic you direct to your site, the more visitors who opt-in to your offer and more sales you generate when they click on your link. And with that comes larger affiliate commissions and an increased revenue stream. And as I stated earlier, if you are promoting a membership type service that requires a fee to join, you will begin to generate residual income from your efforts as well a an increasing affiliate commission check.

The larger you build your list, the more sales you will generate. The more sales you generate the larger your residual income and the larger your overall take home pay.

That is how I generate $20 – $100 paydays on a consistent basis.

The system is simple and easy to set up.

And it works every time.

For free additional information on how you can generate a regular and even residual income online visit my newest website and download my free report “The $200 A Day Cash Machine” and see what you think.

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Marital Bliss

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Marital Bliss? “Young love followed by heavy financial divorce? Is it worth it?”

These days our marital status changes as quickly as Robbie William’s ever dying flings. It’s not always intentional but our ability in modern times to cope with difficult or inconvenient situations is non-existent. Divorce is as common as sugar on a pancake and it’s quite sad that at my tender and vulnerable age, the only honorable couples I could respectfully look up to are dead or characters in classic myths.

Every girl dreams of the day they walk down the aisle to the adoring gaze of their future husband but my dream and others is rapidly becoming faded. Although I do think ill get married one day, I am very wary of the meaning ‘love’. In my short life time I have been hurt twice by people I thought I could trust, but things have a way of working themselves out. Whether a couple decide to stay together for sheer convenience or for the fact that there are children involved in their ‘sick equation’ it still eliminates the theme behind marriage, that is love!

‘I’m divorced’ is such a harsh statement but one we seem to take lightly. 30 years ago it was rarely heard of except in memorable stories of Henry the eighth, the serial committer. Once a couple married it was usually for life.

Nowadays, on average 22000 couples a year file for divorce in Britain alone, So is this a case of becoming tired and bored of your other half or on a more serious level due to domestic violence, adultery or worse still, the inability to rekindle a burnt out flame? I suppose everyone has their own personal reasons but not half in my opinion are acceptable. Some people later in life regret the way they rushed such a life changing decision, and some don’t look back at all. I’m inexperienced in what I preach but I know enough from what’s around me. Our environment, lifestyles and shockingly job titles often cause us to break the sacred vows we made to each other. Many people would not admit to money being the problem in their home because it’s something we don’t care to think about. If the ‘breadwinner’ of the family suddenly brings home two loaves instead of one it without question changes how we behave, live and judge other people. For a short time life is great but we must remember that money is a materialistic and dangerous thing. It makes us begin to believe that we are better and deserve better but in reality the only difference is your wallet. It seems obvious now that wealth makes you that much more untouchable and limits the thing you cannot do but does it bring happiness in all cases?

Things take a turn for the worse when here are children involved and many people stay together because of this. Although it seems sometimes that children are too young to pick up the bad vibes and be affected things are not as they appear. Just because they don’t comment or stop playing and laughing does not mean they haven’t noticed that their ‘mummy and daddy’ don’t love each other anymore. Children are loyal and naive, they believe what their told and never question it because they don’t know any different. When they get older they re-assess the situation and look at it more sensibly, often they can feel bitter and cheated by their parents.

Most children from a divorced family divorce themselves. This is expected however, as every one in three married couples divorce within five years.

Are we as humans incapable of being faithful? Is society today too tempting for our weak hearts?

“To love and to cherish in sickness and in health, until deaths do we part…”

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Tips To Survive Your Favorite Endless Running Game App

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Game apps on android and iOS are nothing short of exciting and entertaining. There are just so many of the games to try when you have time in your hands and you can make selections according to what game types you find interesting and fun to play. Considering that the games can be quite addictive it is important to exercise control so you do not end up neglecting things that matter all in the name of making it to the next level in your favorite game.

Endless running games are some of the most exciting, especially because of the speed involved and the unexpected obstacles and challenges you must avoid and get through to keep moving up the levels. These are games that will keep you holding your breath hoping that you do not suffer fatalities making the quite popular among users. The choices for the running games are numerous and more keep being developed every now and then with improved features and challenges. But how can you try and improve your survival rates when playing the running games on your smartphone or tablet?

Tip 1 – Position the phone strategically to maximize the game graphics. The size of your screen will determine how big and visible the graphics; it may be a good idea to flip your phone horizontally to get better visibility and bigger images for that matter to improve your gaming experience.

Tip 2 – Understand what the running game is all about. The running games are always about dodging obstacles and enemies among other challenges. The only way you will know how to run right is if you know what you are supposed to avoid and what you are supposed to run right into to gain rewards. Try and get as much information about the game as possible before you start with your run so you do not end up running blindly.

Tip 3 – Check out demos and practice to get familiar with the game. Some of the running games will come with demos that you can use to get familiar with the game. Take advantage of those to get a feel of what the game is all about so you can enjoy an easier start.

Tip 4 – Try as much as possible to play uninterruptedly. Regular pauses in the running games will only increase your chances of instant death once you un-pause. Try and enjoy a smooth run until the next stop, but don’t pause just because you feel the challenge has become too much or too hot to handle.

Tip 5 – Learn to relax and remain in control of the run no matter how intense it gets. When you freak out tackling a challenge you increase your chances of making wrong moves and turns that end tragically. In as much as you want to win, remember it is just a game and therefore not a very serious matter.

Tip 6 – Know your rewards and how to use them to your advantage. Some people find it hard to move up the levels because they do not make use of gained rewards such as coins.

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Affordable Website Hosting – 7 Tips

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Don’t get ripped off by your website domain hosting. Take a moment and see if you’re really getting value for money. Below are the 7 key questions you need to ask you website host, to ensure you are getting a good hosting deal.

The good news is that there are thousands of website hosting providers out there that are screaming for your business. And it’s usually no sweat to change. So let’s check out the crucial questions:

1. Get a Plan That’s Affordable

Yes I hear you. The price of your website hosting has to be affordable. I don’t like reaching into my pocket either. I am happy to chip in the dollars where I can see a provider is simply the best of the best – but otherwise forget it.

Pricing can be a confusing issue as it does vary across different website hosting providers. Some offer a free service (with lots of disclaimers) whereas others can run into the hundreds of dollars each month. Shop around and make sure you are comparing apples with apples. You shouldn’t have to pay more than $10-20 per month for a secure mid sized website.

2. Get a Generous Bandwidth Allocation

Your website needs bandwidth. Every time someone visits your site, their computer is placing a request for information. Your website host responds to this request by sending your content directly to the user’s computer. The whole process happens very quickly. Every website hosting package comes with an allocation of bandwidth.

If you have a content rich website, which has lots of large images or available downloads, users are going to consume a large amount of bandwidth. This places a high demand on your bandwidth allocation. If you step over your bandwidth allocation, your website will cease to be transmitted. Which essentially means your site will be offline until either the next billing cycle, or until you grovel to your website hosting provider.

Naturally, you don’t want this to happen. Ensure that your website host provides you with a generous bandwidth allocation and all will be rosy.

3. Get a Large Website Space Allowance

Just like a file on your hard drive, your website does take up space. Sometimes this can be a few megabytes, other times a few gigabytes. It really depends on your site. A good domain hosting provider will give you a generous website space allowance (preferably unlimited). If your host only offers a small allowance, such as 10-100MB, be wary. In this age of increasing media capabilities, this allowance will be eaten up quite quickly.

4. Secure an Uptime Guarantee

The last thing you want is your website hosting provider to flick off their server. This turns the lights off your website and turns you into a panicking zombie. A quality website hosting provider will provide a 99.9% uptime guarantee. You’ll never get a 100% guarantee as there will always be maintenance requirements.

It’s also worth checking out what the guarantee is. The better the guarantee, the more serious the company is in keeping it.

5. Access to a 24/7 Helpdesk

In the wonderful online world, things go wrong. Either you accidentally clicked the wrong button, or you’ve lost your password. I’ve been there and it’s no fun. The anxiety faced can often be multiplied by a poor website hosting provider who is either ‘out to dinner’ or ‘answers requests within the next 24 hours.

Well this is not good enough. You need a website hosting provider that will actually be there when you need them. Every second that your website is offline is bad news. You must demand a help desk that’s manned 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Preferably by phone, email and direct online chat. Anything less is a quality compromise.

6. Easy Installation Features

I’m not a tech head. Chances are you’re not either. Some website hosts offer a great interface that allows you to install content management systems, backups and plugins at the click of a button. This saves you hours of work. Ask your hosts to define their installation and add-on features. If they sound easy to use, give them a thumbs up.

7. Money Back Guarantee

Does your website hosting provider put their money where their mouth is? Are they prepared to back their service with a rock solid guarantee? If so, this removes a lot of your initial risk. It allows you to sign up with them, and if things don’t turn out to your liking you can shake hands and head off into the distance with your money still in your pocket. Go for the money back guarantee and ensure you’re with a quality website hosting provider.

Conclusion

It’s best that you take the time to choose an a website hosting provider that meets the above seven criteria and fits effortlessly into your small business plan. Once you have the right hosting plan, you can ease back into your chair and forget about it, knowing that everything is under control.

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11 Common Cross Browser Compatibility Issues

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Cross browser testing helps the developers to verify the compatibility of the web application across various browsers. With the help of this test, developers can ensure that the web application retains its functionality irrespective of the browser or browser version. However, it is a complex process and might cause errors at certain times.  Some of these issues can often throw the developer off track and delay the web app production process. This process can drastically harm the reputation of a company. So, in this article, we are going to discuss the most common cross browser compatibility issues that a developer might encounter. We will also try to find possible solutions that can help the developers to overcome this obstacle. However, before discussing the problems, we need to understand the basics of cross-browser compatibility testing.

The Basics of Cross Browser Compatibility Testing

During the earlier years of the internet, people mostly used Internet Explorer to access the web. However, with the advancement of technology new browsers have been introduced for the Web industry. These browsers have successfully dominated the industry with the help of attractive features. For instance, Google Chrome dominates more than 50% of the modern web browsing industry. Therefore, the developers must ensure that their web application performs smoothly on all browsers that are available in the market. This is because a company cannot afford to alienate any segment of the industry due to browser incompatibility. Moreover, they must also ensure that their web application retains its functionality on the older functions of the browser as well.

Cross-browser compatibility testing helps the developers to achieve this goal by testing it on thousands of different browsers and browser versions. This test also ensures that all the visual elements of the web application stay in the correct location irrespective of the screen size or resolution. Now let us look at some of the common issues that the developers might encounter while performing cross-browser compatibility testing.

The Most Common Cross Browser Compatibility Issues

1.Performing Validation for HTML and CSS Codes

Performing the validation of HTML and CSS codes can become tricky depending on the browser. This is because various browsers have different methods for detecting and interpreting these codes. So even a small error like a missing bracket can cause drastic outcomes in these browsers. Whereas certain browsers can automatically fix these errors and run the code smoothly. The best way to fix these errors is to increase the vigilance of all web developers and testers. They must analyze all these HTML and CSS codes properly before executing them. There are also various CSS and HTML validation tools that can help the developers in this process.

2.Missing the CSS Reset Options

Ordinarily, every browser has its design layout that is automatically applied to every website. However certain websites have their unique design. To utilize this design the developers have to override the default browser design layout. In case the developers fail to conduct this, the website will be rendered differently depending on different browsers. To solve this issue the developers have to use CSS reset style sheets to override the default web design layout. Normalise.css is one of the most commonly used CSS style sheets in the web development industry.

3.Detection of the Doctype Error

Doctype is considered one of the basic lines for the web development core framework. However, if the developers failed to include this line, it can cause some major errors during the rendering process. Commonly, a browser runs into different modes like strict mode and quirks mode. Most of the modern browsers don’t perform the test for Doctype. However certain old browsers such as internet explorer version 8 still perform this check. So, these older browsers still use strict mode and perform all the checks including the Doctype error checking. The quickest solution to this problem is to mention the doctype at the top of the source code. This will help the developers to display the webpage as intended.

4.Various JavaScript Compatibility Issues

JavaScript compatibility issues often occur when developers try to use modern JavaScript functions with older versions of a browser. For instance, this error can occur if the developer tries to use ECMAScript in Internet Explorer 11. Proper research on JavaScript compatibility is the only way to solve this error. The developers need to find out all the features that will be compatible with the browser on which they are working. Various tools help the developers to convert JavaScript into the latest compatible versions. All these features can help the developers avoid various errors related to JavaScript compatibility. Various other third-party JavaScript functions work similarly to the default JavaScript library.

5.Issues Related to the Layout Compatibility

In the earlier part of this article, we discussed the process of performing CSS reset. However, this process can cause layout compatibility issues in certain situations. This issue is mostly caused due to non-compatibility of a website layout. In certain cases, a non-responsive web application can also cause this error. However, it is quite simple to fix this issue. Developers can use various tools like Flexbox while working with modern web layouts.

6.The Use of Untrusted CSS Libraries

The conventional web layouts can never provide a customized experience for a web application. Therefore, the developers often use third-party CSS libraries for providing customization, scalability, and security to a web app. However, the use of untrusted CSS libraries can have dramatic outcomes in the web development life-cycle. These outcomes include the improper working of CSS libraries or the crash of the entire framework. To avoid these errors the developers must use trusted and well-known libraries like angular JS. They should also check the documentation of a CSS library before integrating them into the development framework.

7.Unavailability of Separate Stylesheets for Different Types of Browsers

Most of the common cross-browser compatibility issues are related to the stylesheets. These issues mostly occur when the older browser versions do not support the modern style elements of a web application. The use of different CSS fixes for various browsers can also trigger this compatibility issue. The easiest way to solve this error is to implement different style sheets for different browsers.  To verify this process the developers can use conditional spreadsheets. This process will help them to link the stylesheets with the respective browser or Browser version.

8.Improper Choice of Testing Tools and Platforms

A web tester can’t conduct all the testing processes single-handedly. Therefore, he will require the assistance of certain tools and platforms to complete this process. Many web developers believe that the choice of tools is completely random and does not have any significant impact. In reality, a proper tool can help to increase the development potential of any web development company. To make the correct choice, the Testers should perform thorough research on the business requirements and project needs. This data will also help them to get an idea about the needs of their users. Lastly, web developers should also consider the recent market trends and developing strategies to make the perfect decision. Let us consider the example of LambdaTest to understand the potential of a Cross browser testing tool.

LambdaTest is a platform to perform automated cross browser testing on multiple browsers and devices simultaneously. This platform uses a safe and secure online Selenium Grid to perform all the testing processes. The cloud-based server helps the developers to perform all the testing applications from anywhere in the world.

Using this platform, the developers can also verify the functionality of the locally hosted web applications. The developers can reuse the LambdaTest test scripts in various other developing projects as well. LambdaTest also helps a tester to perform automated visual testing on the UI elements of a web application. LambdaTest maintains an activity log to store all the final test reports during the web application development life-cycle. Lastly, it provides various attractive plans to support the growth of small web developing companies.

9.Ignoring the Functions for Vender Specific Tasks

As we already discussed earlier, all web applications are not created with the same intentions. For instance, a company can create a web application for conducting business, storing data or displaying some vital information. Depending on the purpose of the web application, the developers have to customize the designing and development process. For instance, developers have to arrange all the visual elements properly to avoid any compatibility issues. The primary goal of a vendor-specific web application should be to maintain user satisfaction.

10.Old Systems for Browser Detection

To optimize a web application for a browser, the developers need to understand which browser the end-users are using. The conventional way of completing this process was using a simple browser detection system. However, with the advancement in technology, these systems have failed to deliver the correct results. To solve this problem, the developers have to get rid of the conventional browser detection system. Instead, they can use modern technologies such as a modernizer which conducts a series of super-fast tests. These tests will reveal all the browser features. The developers can use this data to provide a seamless experience.

11.Insufficient Testing on Real Devices

In this modern generation, most companies try to complete the testing process with the help of an emulator or virtual machine. Many web testers have the misconceptions that an emulator can completely substitute a physical device testing process. In reality, there are certain factors that a virtual machine or an emulator can never simulate. For instance, it cannot perform testing for human interaction on various web applications. It is also impossible to use emulators to perform visual element testing. To solve this issue, the developers can use various online cloud platforms to perform remote testing on physical devices. There are various platforms like LambdaTest that can help the developers to achieve this goal.

Wrapping Up!

So, we can conclude that cross-browser compatibility testing is an important process to ensure the proper functioning of a web application. The developers must perform this test to ensure that they can provide the ultimate user experience to their end-users. In this article, we discussed various obstacles that might occur during the cross-browser compatibility testing phase. However, with the help of innovation and work experience, the testers can easily overcome these hurdles.

Lastly, we would like to recommend the testers seriously consider the tool and platform selection process. During this phase, they can consider the project requirements and their company ideals to make a perfect choice. This process will help the testers to use the full potential of the testing environment. The primary goal of a web developer should always be to quickly provide high-quality web applications to the end-users.

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3 Forgiveness Quotes Everyone Should Live By

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Forgive and forget. Isn’t that just one of the most overused forgiveness quotes in history? If you’re looking for something a little more than that, then this article is for you. Read on…

Forgiveness Quote # 1: “There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.” – Bryant H. McGill

Love can be quite complicated; but if there’s one thing you can be sure of, it’s that love and forgiveness go hand in hand.

Parents, I think, understand this best of all. Mothers and fathers who truly love their children might get angry when their kids break something in the house or disobey their orders, but they’ll always forgive them in the end.

Runaways who leave home in the heat of an argument can also relate to this. The lucky ones who have loving parents will always be welcomed home with open arms.

Forgiveness Quote # 2: “Always forgive you enemies; nothing annoys them so much.” – Oscar Wilde

Talk about cheekiness. This Oscar Wilde quote is almost a spin-off of the Christian mandate “love thy enemy,” isn’t it? For most people, getting them to forgive their enemies is almost impossible; but from Wilde’s perspective, it looks quite doable and even satisfying.

So if you have someone who makes your life a living hell – say, a boss or a rival at work – try forgiving their transgressions against you. Think about this quote as you do so, and I am confident it will make your day.

Forgiveness Quote # 3: “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” – Lewis B. Smedes

In this particular Lewis B. Smedes quote, you are being made to discover how your inability to forgive other people affects you.

Most people think that withholding forgiveness gives them power over others, but they fail to realize that they themselves are also held captive.

As long as you hold that grudge, your heart will never be at ease and you will remain forever bitter. Is that really how you plan to live the rest of your life?

These forgiveness quotes might not make sense to you at the moment, especially if you’re still too angry and too wound up to listen. Give yourself time to relax and let go. In due time, you will find it in your heart to forgive even those whom you find most unforgivable.

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Practical Tricks For How To Get Your Newborn To Sleep At Night

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Babies are one of the most precious gifts for parents. In simple words, it is a blessing for parents. Having experience of becoming a new parent is undoubtedly a feeling that cannot be expressed into words.

But apart from this, there are still a few things which you as a new parent do not know or mentally not prepare, and somehow this becomes the reason for creating a bit of fuss in your routine cycle.

For a new parent, one major thing that becomes a bit problem is when the baby won’t sleep at night hours, so what new parents start to do Is finding the ways and start searching.

To consider this, today in this article, I try my level best to jot down some of the effective ways for how to get your newborn to sleep at night, through which you can be aware of it a bit early especially before your delivery time and then able enough to tackle your baby after your delivery.

So without any wastage of time, let’s get the ball roll, and unveil the tips about how to get your newborn to sleep at night together.

Tricks that help to make your baby sleep well at night

Feed well:

One of the major mistakes which most new parents make is to not be sure or set the time that when and which time you need to feed your baby.

So my advice for all the new mothers wondering how to get your newborn to sleep at night is to make sure that during night hours, specifically at the time when you sleep, avoid feeding your baby. As for babies, there is no day and night time, and they sleep when they want to sleep.

So, one trick which you can adopt is to make sure that your baby is not sleeping too much in the day. Try to entertain your baby or spend day hours with your baby, so through this automatically, your baby will sleep at the time when you sleep.

The second thing is, try not to feed your baby in sleeping hours. Make sure that you feed your baby well, and your baby is not hungry before sleeping.

A white noise:

White noise is also one of the best considerations which you can pick at night time. If your baby wakes at night or in the middle of the night, then play a sound like a lullaby or a gentle/ soothing sound. You can play that near your baby, so doing this will help your baby to make him sleep at night.

Keep your surrounding calm and comfortable:

Make sure that at night times your room lights are properly off, the surrounding of your baby room is calm and comfortable. Additionally, also try to avoid switching on and off the lights during the time of your baby sleeping.

As most of the time, a little bit of distraction or disturbance in your baby sleep becomes the reason for keeping your baby awake.

Hope after reading this little piece of guide regarding how to get your newborn to sleep at night will help you and let your baby sleep well at night hours.

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