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How Much Are You Paying For Free Stuff?

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There is no such thing as free stuff in reality – someone has to create the product and pay the cost of producing it. The trick is that sometimes the cost of the stuff is transferred to another person or paid for using some alternate method that is not obvious. How can you pay for free stuff? With time, stress and restrictions as opposed to what you would normally do.

Wasting Time

Are you wasting time jumping through hoops to collect the free stuff? The saying “time is money” applies to anyone, not just business people because time is something you cannot have back once it has been lost or “used up”. The way to know how much your time costs is by comparing it to money. If I spend an hour a month working to obtain “free stuff” and I could be doing something that pays me $20 per hour, then I am paying $20 per month. There are instances where you may save time, but are not necessarily getting paid for it. What else would you rather be doing instead of chasing free stuff? Maybe you are learning something new, researching a deal that could save you money somewhere else, you can do tasks that you may be paying someone else to do, or change a habit that may save you money. This concept is very individual, and you would have to see where your time goes to understand where the trade-offs are. I often ask people: “Where Does Your Money Go?” There is a corresponding question which in many ways is more important: Where Does Your Time Go?” Given all of the complaining about not having enough time, this question should be examined more closely.

Personal Information

Many sources of free stuff will present themselves only if you provide personal information. What is wrong with this? You could argue that it does not matter to you since all of my information is out there anyway and I have nothing to hide. Whether this is true or not still leaves you vulnerable to the filling out of endless forms or sifting through telephone calls and emails which you are likely not interested in engaging in. Your information may be “shared” or sold to other vendors whom you did not deal with directly and which will add to the annoyance and time wasting. In the age of computer hacks and identity theft, the more places personal information is available, the more likely this will happen to you. Aside from the stress and time spent in cancelling credit cards, updating anti-virus software and chasing down money taken from your accounts, there is also a greater chance of fraud and theft which is a great disturbance to your life. The effects of that may linger on for years after the occurrence. The best security measure you can take is not to put information into a technology platform in the first place.

Restrictions on Shopping

The old adage of saving money on buying products is to “shop around” for the best offer. If you have ever done this, you will know there are sometimes wide divergences in the prices of goods either from different locations or different times of the year. One of my most valuable ways of saving money is to shop when / where other people do not. If you are collecting points, are you still going to do the comparison to get the best deal in spite of the points not being collected? From the people I have seen, I think the answer is no. It is not likely that one store or web site will always have the best deals. Even the known cheaper stores may have expensive products.

Being Organized

Is being organized and doing administrative tasks natural for you? If it is, tracking points and optimizing their use would be second nature to you. I find many people are the opposite – filling out forms, doing paperwork, calculating discounts or accounting for taxes on purchases is not their strong suit. If you want proof, go to dinner with a bunch of people and see how the tip is calculated. If people bother with it at all, the will use the computer or an app to do it for them. An app or computer cannot make decisions for you when it comes to buying products with intangible elements like time, aggravation and stress built into the equation.

The Pretzel

Are you forced to buy things or utilize services that you really don’t want or at times that are not convenient for you? Do these choices cost you in many other ways? A classic example is flying somewhere on points. Yes, the flight is free, but it is at 3 am on Monday morning. You may have been able to take transit to the airport, but at such an odd time, you will need a limo or a taxi cab. The flight could have been direct, but the free flight may have 1 or 2 layovers where you are wasting hours at the airport(s). Since time is being wasted at the airport, you will buy more expensive meals and utilize more roaming charges unless you plan ahead. If you have to stay overnight for a layover, there is an additional transportation and accommodation fee that is part of your trip expense, but not necessarily part of your vacation. You may need additional vacation days due to this free flight which will cost you for other vacations that you may want to take. If you are starting to feel like a pretzel, this is the point. Are you going to do a comparison to see if the pretzel flight is worth it compared to paying for a direct flight at the time you want and for the destination that you want? If you forgo the pretzel flight, maybe you will not be able to redeem these points in the future. Maybe then you will have to buy something to “use up the points”. Once you commit to these programs, you are under the rules of the issuer, and they will change to any time to accommodate the issuer and make profits. If someone is making profits, the customer is paying for those profits. The trick for you is to figure if it is worth it in spite of what can transpire.

When Is the Free Stuff Worth it?

The free stuff can be a good offer if it is treated like a discount that you were not expecting. If you take the opposite view of all of the points stated in this article, the free stuff will be a good deal. If you would have bought the product anyway on its own merit and the points are a bonus, you are not subject to additional hassles or organizational hoops, you have options to utilize the loyalty program and still get the best deal without the pretzel effect, then the free stuff is likely a good idea. The key to this concept is to observe your habits and your spending style and find a program that fits well with you instead of having to contort into whatever the program demands. You may sometimes have to abandon the programs if they are just not worth it. If you find this impossible due to the idea that “I have to use my points” at all costs, this may resemble an addiction and decisions will likely be distorted rather be a bonus

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What Does It Mean When A Husband Says He Had An Affair Because He Felt Empty?

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If I’m being honest, I’m not sure that any of my husband’s excuses for an affair were going to ring true for me, especially at first. When you are dealing with the shock of an affair, you are defensive. You are angry. So when your husband starts will the defenses which indicate that something was missing in his life, it’s very easy to reject these outright.

Some of us will debate that anything was wrong. And some of us will accept that something was wrong, but will stop short of believing that the flaw was any sort of excuse. Sometimes, it is very hard to understand what he means when he gives you vague terms as excuses. One such excuse is the description of feeling “empty.”

Someone might say: “I honestly could not believe it when I caught my husband having an affair. I never thought that he was the type and I thought that our marriage was good. My husband has always been disappointed in friends who have cheated on their wives. So I never could have anticipated this. At first, he refused to talk about any aspect of the affair. He would get angry and quiet. His face would turn red. I honestly think he’s a little bit embarrassed. In the past week, I’ve been very clear about telling him that I expect answers. And that if I don’t get them, our marriage might be over. So finally be blurted out that he just felt ’empty’ and this his eyes got all teary. I guess he thought I would feel pity for him, but honestly, all this confession did was to make me feel anger and a loss of respect. What a cry baby. What a whiner. My life isn’t always great but you don’t see me going out and ruining my life and cheating on people. What the heck does this even mean anyway – ’empty?’ How does one feel empty? It’s just ridiculous to me.”

We all know the literal definition of empty. The dictionary definition is “containing nothing. Not filled or occupied.” But the emotional definition of empty is a little more difficult to grasp. When someone says they feel empty, it means that they feel flat. They don’t feel fulfilled. They feel as though their life lacks purpose.

Frankly, I’ve heard a lot of depressed people say that they feel empty. Because when you are down emotionally, it is easy to focus on a feeling of lack.

Even if your husband is being completely honest with you (and I don’t know why he would lie about this, since it’s not exactly flattering,) it doesn’t excuse his cheating. But it does indicate that he’s willing to open up. And it does give you a starting point.

Unfortunately feeling empty isn’t a very specific complaint and addressing it isn’t going to be a quick fix. You can’t just suddenly fill your husband’s emotional cup. His lack is his own. And no one else can fill him except for himself. It must come from within him.

Common Reasons For Feeling ‘Empty:’ There are many reasons people feel empty. Some are disappointed with how their life has turned out so far. Others feel that they are lacking purpose so they don’t feel that they make a difference in this world. Others feel like they are just treading water in their life without any real meaningful direction. Identifying the feelings is something that your husband is going to need to do for himself because you can’t possibly know how he feels and what he is thinking.

Good counseling can help your husband identify what is lacking and help him formulate a plan to feel better. Many people do not have the self knowledge or the ability to objectively look at themselves to see what is really happening.

The good news is that often, once the person finds their way again, they no longer have the need to seek out risky or dangerous behaviors in order to feel whole (or to feel anything for that matter.)

Feeling empty isn’t an excuse for cheating, but it is a route that many people will take. Nothing in their life makes them feel alive or brings a flush to their face. They get desperate to feel anything at all. So the affair is an attempt to get them to feel, to get them engaged again.

Of course, the better option would have been for him to have sought that feeling at home. Once more, I am not excusing his cheating. I am just speculating as to what he might be trying to express. And I want to stress that although it may be tempting to try and fix this for him, this isn’t something that anyone but him can and should address.

Certainly, you can support him. You can encourage him to seek counseling or self help. This is true even if you aren’t sure about your marriage. Whether you are angry with him or not, he is an important person in your life, and I’m sure you want him to get help for this. But you can not fill him or take away his emptiness. Only he can do that. And it’s important that he does. Because you can not give someone something that you do not have.

You can not give another person love and stability when you yourself are not feeling that internally. I hope that this article may have give you some insight on what your husband may have meant by feeling empty. By no means is an excuse, but it may be an attempt to express why he acted.

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Six Figure Mentors Review – What Does It Take To Succeed?

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I joined the SFM back in 2014. At the time it had only been running for four years. I didn’t know what to expect but I had been burned a few times online with a number of business type courses promising to help me earn money. My lack of experience back then and my desperation was partly responsible for some of my failures. But also, many courses taught tactics which were already becoming out of date.

Some of the courses I bought taught how to get your website up in the Google rankings. If you’ve ever tried this, you’ll know it isn’t easy. It was far easier 20 years ago admittedly. But now, getting ranked for your website is becoming much more difficult.

So back to The SFM. When I joined I decided I needed to start afresh and although I had learned a number of skills, I still hadn’t really made any money on the internet. With the exception of buying and selling on eBay, the other strategies I had tried just didn’t get any traction.

After joining, I was immediately impressed with the information I was getting. The “over-deliver” strategy clearly worked on me! I also benefitted by joining under someone who helped me make my first couple of high ticket sales. This happened within a few months. However, I didn’t fully understand the business system or what was involved. Although I’d made a couple of quick sales, for not much work, I hadn’t entirely been responsible for those sales. The affiliate who referred me had set up a Facebook advertising “co-op” and helped a number of people get some traction.

After my first sales, I stopped advertising and simply took the money! This seemed like a lot of money to me back then. It was a couple of thousand pounds. I now realise that I should have re-invested it back into the advertising, which is what I am doing now, now I understand the business better.

Having made an ‘early win’ gave me confidence in the business system which is one of the main selling points of what The SFM offers. It also offers top-notch training too – more so now than back in 2014 when I joined. Now, I am a member of a number of Facebook private groups which I can sit in on, and watch ‘over the shoulder’ of those who are succeeding in this business.

Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t an easy business to learn. Some of my main problems have been my ‘grab it and run’ mindset and scarcity mindset which has stopped me from taking some important action steps. The SFM training program caters very well for this. In fact, one of their main strengths is undoubtably their ability to install an ideology of personal growth. Without this, you really will be fighting some internal battles as I have definitely done. This will hold you back if you don’t overcome your mental barriers to success.

It’s not for everyone either, admittedly. The business system itself is expensive and for some prohibitively so. But for anyone wanting to make full time living from the internet, I’d say The SFM is a good place to go. You’ll need to work hard and invest though, and it’s no easy ride. But it does offer something which many want – a digital business system which can be run from anywhere. The possibility of financial freedom, however far away you believe it to be.

If you only want the training, I’d say that was worth the money at the lower levels too. I had a failing kung fu school running when I joined and now it’s doing really well. I attribute that to much of the learning and understanding I have picked up from the SFM training and education platform.

You can’t really expect to earn a living though if you only join at basic level. Only by at least getting to Elite level will you be able to access the higher ticket product commissions. But if you want to learn some digital marketing and mindset skills, it’s worth the training and community even if you don’t want to make a full time career out of it. The community on its own is a hugely powerful resource and has benefitted me both personally and professionally.

After my first couple of high ticket sales, I decided to focus on blogging and the cheaper strategies of generating traffic. I simply didn’t have a budget to risk on advertising. I decided that if I got free traffic, the sales would be worth more in profit, which is true. The problem is, the strategy I used (blogging) isn’t the best one, particularly in a very competitive niche like affiliate marketing and “money-making online”. I know there are people doing well with social media marketing and other free strategies, but I didn’t go down this route.

The people who are making the real money with The SFM are those who go all in. They position themselves at the very top tier of the business system and promote the SFM themselves as partner level affiliates. This means they can earn the highest possible commissions from the business. Some products are sold at $35,000. Those at the top level can earn 40% of this in commissions, but they need to purchase the product themselves in order to have it in their ‘online store’.

There’s a lot of learning to be done too. I thought I’d make it work very quickly and be sitting on a beach counting my money. But as I persevered through the difficulties, I have changed and understood that it’s a business like anything else. It’s no magic bullet to instant riches. Just a business model with products within it that anyone can sell.

In order to put the most expensive items in your own personal online ‘shop’, you need to purchase them yourself. Reading the reviews today that I’ve found about the SFM I see a lot of scepticism. Many say it’s a scam. Well, it’s not a scam, it’s real. But it’s easier to say it’s a scam and not have to do all the work involved in making it happen. There’s plenty of people who are making it work for them, and creating amazing lifestyle businesses of their choosing.

The SFM started in 2010 and have recently partnered with Microsoft Lynda (Under the LInkedIn umbrella of companies). Microsoft Lynda now offer their own 6,500 training courses as part of the SFM curriculum.

DigitalMarketer (The world’s longest standing and most highly respected B2B and B2C marketing training company) also partnered with SFM and now offer their own training as part of the SFM curriculum.

I don’t think these companies would partner with any organisation that wasn’t providing huge value, was well established, and wasn’t 100% above board.

Since joining The SFM in 2014, I’ve seen some huge changes in myself. I’ve had to face myself and see my own limitations as stopping me move forwards within the business. Your thinking and mindset have a huge amount to do with whether you can make a success out of entrepreneurship. It’s much, much easier to discount something as a scam, than it is to look within and grow yourself alongside a business.

If I had quit on my journey, I would have missed out on a greater opportunity than I could fathom at the time. I struggled and struggled, but much of my struggle was with my lack of understanding of the business model and of my own limitations. I was programmed with a poverty mindset which viciously fought against spending money. To get into the space of knowing that I need to spend in order to earn was a huge shift in my mindset.

I’m far from the best performer in The SFM, at this time, but what I’ve learned about myself and about my inner limitations is invaluable for the rest of my life. I will continue to learn and never quit, so watch this space, you doubting sceptics out there!

For those who are thinking about joining The SFM and to do so would mean severe poverty, I’d suggest to get in a better financial position first. I scraped by and took some chances, but it’s not easy. If you are determined in this business though, there’s no reason you can’t make it happen. But if you can’t afford it, I’d suggest another program if it’s going to put you in debt.

The SFM program is more than just a sales funnel with digital products in it. It’s an “all-in-one digital business system and training platform. The goal is to make long term digital entrepreneurs who can sustain an income and thrive from the sale of products over the internet. That means there’s a whole lot of work to be done, if you’re going to make this a full time living.

It’s definitely not for the timid. Expect to be pushed, and expect some discomfort if you’re going to do what you need to make it work. Remember too that affiliate marketing is performance related. No one owes you a living! You need to take charge of yourself and your business in order to make it work! Good luck!

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What Does Your Interior or Exterior House Paint Color Say About You? 7 Keys to Color Communication

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How would you describe yourself? Are you conservative, bold, fun-loving, sophisticated–and even more, how much do you want to communicate this in a non-verbal way?

You can do it with your choice of paint colors. It’s a not-so-subtle communication about your personality and lifestyle.

Of course, you can use this both ways. Do you want to be more “undercover?” Want it to be a secret, or surprise? See how comfortable you are with colors and combinations of colors that run counter to your innate attractions and inclinations.

It’s a bit different, granted, whether we’re talking about the exterior of your home, versus the interior.

Interiors are much more flexible, and it’s much easier to make be more expressive with interior colors–then change them at a whim if you want to.

7 keys to color communication

1. Extroverts: Usually like to use bright, contrasting colors and patterns that say, “Look at Me.”

2. Introverts: Tend to be attracted to a more pensive style of color. Blue, green, and soft lavender hues in muted tones whisper “I love quiet places.” These are good colors to create spaces for meditation.

3. Style-conscious: Add some unique colors to the mix, looking at the current trends in color and design.

4. Sophisticated: Subtle, or dramatic. Color preferences are often neutral-based, using colors of metal and stone with accents of brilliance or depth.

5. Happy and Sunny: The effusive, upbeat personality is energetic and loves to share, in of yellows and oranges combines with floral and garden colors. The message: “I want you to enjoy this, too!”

6. Serious individual: Look for earthy “neutrals” with stronger color accents in a monochromatic style palette. Some punch of stronger color shows the sense of adventure in this person.

7. Adventurous: An eclectic personality, and palettes drawn from sources ranging from natural, earth-tones to “high-tech color” accents and international hues exemplifies these individuals. There’s a tendency to change color styles, accessories, and paint walls at a moment’s notice.

Tips for exterior expression

While exterior colors can be expressive as well, it’s obviously a much bigger commitment when you’re painting the exterior of your home. You will probably not be changing your home’s exterior color palette too often. But when you do, you can still keep these in mind-along with all the other considerations creating a personalized home with exterior color.

Body colors: Stand out in a beautiful way with a deeper color than your neighbors are using.

Trim: Make it a contrast with the body, but it does not have to be white!

Accents: Here’s your place to be more expressive, with a bold complementary color.

Historic buildings: Even the color palettes for historic homes or other properties can include a bit of personal expression.

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