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The Beauty of the Female Bond

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I recently witnessed the dissolution of a friendship between two women who had been extremely close. It was interesting to see the two diverse paths each decided to take in regards to the healing of this tragic event. The one woman chose to do everything in her power to create havoc in the life of the other. She used vengeful tactics to express her anger and hurt, which included speaking badly of her former friend in their tight knit community. In the end, this behavior backfired on her. The second woman took a very different approach. It started with forgiveness. She reached out to the other woman, trying to mend the misunderstanding. When that didn’t work, she turned to the network of other women in her life, letting them swaddle her with their love and support. It was beautiful to witness such companionship amongst women and to see the bonds tighten because of honesty and humility.

Female friendships can be complex. When we are young, we envy our friends, we covet their possessions and sometimes, even their boyfriends. We aren’t always taught the importance of being happy for one another so when we reach adulthood, these intricate insecurities travel with us. I remember when I was in my early twenties and my best friend had it all, or so I thought. She had a dream job working for a network television company and she had boyfriend after boyfriend while I couldn’t even get a date. In hindsight, I know I should have been happy for her, but I wasn’t. She possessed all the things I thought I wanted in my life and I was jealous. I couldn’t find it in my heart to support her, and I was always putting her down, mirroring my own lack of confidence onto her. In the end, I believe this led to the disintegration of our friendship. It was a difficult life lesson for me since deep down, I loved her very much and was grief stricken over this loss. After that, I decided to change my rapport with women.

Throughout history, women have bonded together during difficult times. When the men were off to war, the wives and widows turned to each other for a sense of community and family. Scarlet O’Haras were a rarity. For the most part, the bond of female friendships was resilient, and this was prevalent in all cultures around the world. So then, how did we become our own worst enemies?

We live in a culture that glamorizes negative relations between women. Reality shows profit from promoting competition and conflict, bringing out the ugliness inside of the participants. We even have the gall to call these people celebrities, as though we should celebrate this type of behavior.

A study at the University of Michigan focused on the importance of female friendships. In a news release, Stephanie Brown, the lead author of the paper found that “Most of the hormones involved in bonding and helping behavior lead to reductions in stress and anxiety.” During a study at UCLA, Dr. Laura Cousino Klein, now at Penn State University discovered that during times of stress, men tend to go into “fight or flight” mode. For women, when the hormone, oxytocin (the love hormone) is released, they tend to gather with other women instead. By doing this, more oxytocin is released and acts as a calming agent. Our relationships with other women in turn, lower our blood pressure and cholesterol. “There’s no doubt that friends are helping us live longer,” Dr. Klein states.

Today, I am surrounded by beautiful, smart, successful women. Instead of envying all they have, I take so much pleasure in watching them grow, watching them succeed, seeing them in loving relationships. I’m always there to nurture them when their hearts are in need of healing, and I never find pleasure from in their failings. I love that I can partake in their happiness and especially, be a cause for it at times. I can say this about every woman who is an important part of my life, and judging by the support they give me in return, I’m sure they can say the same about me too. It took a lot of growth on my part to reach this point, but now that I have, my life is more fulfilling than ever. Yes, my friends are good for my health, and I anticipate a long, happy lifetime of joy with them.

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Purple Professional Nail Polish Review

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Purple nail polish comes in so many different shades that it can be worn throughout the seasons to nearly any occasion. There are lavender, eggplant, and true purple nail polishes popping up everywhere.

There are even bright, neon magentas that have been showing up. Purple nail polish looks great on most skin tones and can add a huge contrast if you pick the right one. Darker purples will really show up against fair skin and lighter ones will create a huge difference on darker skin. The range of purple shades vary so much that they can be worn in a professional environment or even on a special night out. Here are some different shades of purple nail polish and how they can be worn:

Pale lavender nail polishes have become very popular. They come in extreme pastels and even brighter lilac shades. Lavender polishes are very subtle and are perfect in an office environment. They can be worn with blacks or other purple attire and accessories. Lavender shades are very natural looking, but if you have darker skin they will create a huge contrast. Try using pale lavender nail polish on the tips of your nails for a twist on the classic french manicure. You can even pair a pale purple polish with other pastel shades by alternating them on each nail. For the perfect shade of lavender nail polish check our “nice is nice”, “st. lucia lilac”, “lilacism”, and “looking for love” by Essie.

True purple polishes and magenta add a great pop of color and really stand out against fair skin. They are perfect for summer months and can be paired with a bright sun dress. Since tangerines are super popular right now, try wearing a bright purple with a tangerine top or dress for the perfect contrast of colors. True purples are suitable for casual office environments but try to shy away from bright magentas in a professional settings. These colors are great for polka dotted nails and could be mixed with a lilac nail polish for a great effect. If you are looking for a great purple or magenta nail polish try “sure shot” by Essie or “Justin Beiber” by Nicole.

Dark, eggplant purples are ideal for a date night or a sophisticated event because they give a dark, sexy vibe without seeming overwhelming. Deep purples are a great alternative to dark black nail polishes. There are many different shades of dark purples including rich rose shades, eggplant shades, and maroon shades. There are even some purple nail polishes that have a rich brownish tint. You could pair a rich purple shade with a pale violet dress, a purple dress, or a black dress. This shade would also create a great contrast against gray apparel or accessories. Consider painting both your fingernails and toenails this shade and letting your toes peek through peep-toe pumps for a sensual vibe. For the perfect dark purple shades take a look at “plumberry”, “raspberry”, “angora cardi”, “jamaica me crazy”, and “big spender” by Essie.

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iPhone TV Online

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The iPhone continues to amaze millions with its capabilities. The most recent trend has been with online video.

While it is true that some video does not work on the iPhone (i.e. Flash), the important thing to note is that H.264 and Quicktime based streaming video does.

With that well understood, a variety of major studios have placed video content online for the iPhone.

Full episodes include 30 Rock, Beverly Hills 90210, Buck Rogers in the 25th Century, Crusoe, Days of our Lives, Heroes, Kath & Kim, Knight Rider, Life, Lipstick Jungle, MacGyver, My Own Worst Enemy, The Office, Smart Girls at the Party, Star Trek, and The Young and the Restless.

Webisodes and segments include Battlestar Galactica, Cartoon Networks’s, Flapjack, Disney’s Pixar Mater’s Tall Tales, The Late Show with David Letterman, Mythbusters, Criss Angel’s Mindfreak, as well as other selections on the ABC, Animal Planet, Biography, Discovery, E! Online, Food Network, G4 TV, and Travel Channel sites.

Previews, sports, and news clips are also available on CBS News, CBS Sports, ESPN, FOX Sports Network, MSNBC, and The Weather Channel.

So what’s the catch? The iPhone is a bit small to watch for extended periods, and generally, Wi-Fi over 3G is recommended.

So would you, since you could? In general, the video on the iPhone is perfect for catching a current news clip of a pilot landing on water or amusing the kids while waiting for the doctor.

To find all the great video sites for the iPhone, open the Safari browser and type in “iphone.spreety.com”.

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The Truth About Ingrown Toenail Home Remedies

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When she walked into the living room, Billy was sitting on the couch. His sock and shoe lay on the floor. He was staring closely at his big toe. Then he looked up at his mother and said “I think I have an ingrown toenail. Its been hurting since last week, but I didn’t want you to take me to the doctor. I was hoping it would just go away.”

Ingrown toenails can be painful. But the thought of going to the doctor seems to bother some kids even more. Mix a teenager’s emerging independence with a little fear of doctor’s offices, and its no wonder they wait to ask for help.

There are many home remedies for ingrown toenails. Some work and some don’t. Some are even the same as those a pediatrician would recommend. Once you understand the causes and various home treatments for ingrown toenail, you can decide for yourself which might be best.

An ingrown toenail begins when any part of the toenail gets caught in the skin around the nail. The skin then becomes irritated and inflamed. If the piece of nail is sharp, the skin can actually become punctured or cut by the jagged corner of the nail. If the toenail punctures the skin causing an open wound, bacteria and infection can develop. The toe becomes red, swollen and very painful.

The most common home remedy for ingrown toenails is to soak the foot in warm Epsom salts. Soaking the foot this way can soften the skin around the nail. This can make the area less inflamed and less painful. In some cases it can be enough to make let the ingrown piece of nail become free.

Some people think that Epsom salt soaks can cure an ingrown toenail. It is true that a high concentration of Epsom salts can kill bacteria that cause infection. However, Epsom salts can also kill the fibroblast cells that heal wounds. If there is an open wound or an infection, Epsom salt soaks can prolong healing.

Petroleum jelly applied to an ingrown nail is another common home treatment. Patients have said they think Vaseline will soften the nail and let it slide out of the ingrown nail fold. While Vaseline will soften the skin, it also traps a great deal of moisture. This can cause the skin to become too moist and break down. If the skin breaks down, you have a much higher chance of bacteria getting in and causing an infected ingrown toenail.

Another common home remedy is to stuff cotton under the corner of the nail. The idea is that you might be able to hold the nail up away from the skin long enough to let it calm down. But this usually back-fires. The cotton actually creates more pressure on the skin under the toenail. Cotton also holds in moisture that can encourage an infection.

Another myth about ingrown toenails is that you can cut a V-shaped piece of nail out of the center of the toenail. The idea is that the gap you cut in the middle will slowly move together, pulling the corners of the nail in to free the ingrown nail at the side of the toe. Unfortunately, this is impossible. The nail plate itself is very rigid and fixed in placed by little grooves that prevent this from happening. Cutting a “V” in the nail won’t help.

Some people can actually free the ingrown nail, just by cutting out the piece of toenail that is caught in the skin. Podiatrists typically warn against trying to do this yourself at home because it can make it worse, but sometimes it will fix the ingrown toenail. But you must be very careful to remove ALL of the corner of the nail that is stuck.

Frequently people will try to remove the nail and only get part of it. They get some relief, just because there is less pressure down in the nail groove. However, the piece that is left behind is a sharp little sliver called a spicule.

So the toe feels better for a few weeks, but the spicule is getting longer, as the nail grows out. If you then trip over a curb or bump the toe against a table leg. And whammo… that little spicule pokes right into the skin in the corner of the nail fold. The ingrown toenail returns with a vengeance.

Massaging the nail plate after you shower or bathe may be the safest way to try to work the ingrown toenail free. Just don’t keep trying if it is painful. You should also stop if there is any drainage. Drainage can mean infection.

The biggest risk with an ingrown toenail is that it will become infected. And any infection toenail needs medical attention. Ingrown toenail infections occur more in people with diabetes. Infections are also common in ingrown toenails that have been getting worse for several days. One misconception is that you can simply cure an ingrown toenail by taking antibiotic pills. The simple truth is that you need to remove the irritating piece of nail and cure the infection as well.

One of the best kept secret home remedies is a podiatry house call. A podiatrist is a foot doctor and a true toenail expert. They are experts trained to heal ingrown toenails with the least discomfort. Many podiatrists offer home visits to treat toenail problems. That way, neither Mom nor little Billy has to worry about going to the doctor’s office.

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