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7 Golden Answers When Your Grief Healing Hope Nose-Dives

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When Your Grief Healing Hope Nose-Dives There are 7 Golden Answers.

Are there times when your hope fails you and your confidence nose-dives?

Golden Answer # 1

HOPE CAN TAKE A TEMPORARY PAUSE

Where Hope Fails and Healing Grows is part of your grief healing journey. A brief hiatus, even for others, a temporary hibernation is a natural result of the unwanted grief experience.

However, grief prepares you for a better hope, a fresh start towards healing.

“Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow.” ~ Rumi

New fresh roots of hope are essential elements to progress from a temporary pause in healing form your grief. Don’t let discouragement or a short detour in your happiness cause your hope to permanently fail. Grief prepares you to receive more gladness as you begin healing.

Golden Answer # 2

YOUR DECISION ABOUT WHO YOU ARE IS VITAL

“Every decision you make – every decision – is not a decision about what to do.

It’s a decision about Who You Are.

When you see this, when you understand it, everything changes.

You begin to see life in a new way.

All events, occurrences, and situations turn into opportunities

to do what you came here to do.”

~ Neale Donald Walsch

As you understand who you are everything changes about what to do. Finding the metal inside of you points your actions in a healing direction. Every grief healing decision you then make turns your thoughts and efforts toward opportunities.

Dig deep. Look inside your soul you are made of more inspiration and strength than you thought.

Golden Answer # 3

QUIT WORRYING SO MUCH AND TAKE TIME TO THINK

When grief strikes so can massive worry. After worry about what is, is still there. Try engaging your mind in some hard, solid thinking.

“Rarely do we find men who willingly engage in hard, solid thinking. There is an almost universal quest for easy answers and half-baked solutions. Nothing pains some people more than having to think.”

~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

Excessive worrying can cause you, figuratively, to go down a worthless rabbit hole. Worry is usually joined by discouragement, fear, and discouragement.

Can you accept the self-challenge to take time to do some hard, solid, undiluted, thinking – absent worry? You will surprise yourself with the positive results of this personal effort. It may require more than one attempt to accomplish meaningful results.

Golden Answer # 4

HOW BADLY DO YOU WANT TO HEAL FROM YOUR GRIEF?

“Wanting something is not enough. You must hunger for it. Your motivation must be absolutely compelling in order to overcome the obstacles that will invariably come your way.” ~ Les Brown

As you stand up to your obstacles you must be absolute in your efforts. Wanting is not a strong action word like DOING. Doing helps you learn that many obstacles only have half the strength you thought they had. Nonetheless, your efforts must be absolute. The key to healing your grief is being to be fully engaged with your own commitment and inspiration.

Golden Answer # 5

LEARN TO MASTER YOUR HAPPINESS

It is essential that you learn to create a direction for yourself that highlights a clear course to follow. If your path is clear you can develop ideas and tools that you can immediately use to master your own happiness.

“There’s no reality except the one contained within us. That’s why so many people live an unreal life. They take images outside them for reality and never allow the world within them to assert itself.”

~ Hermann Hesse

Learning to not let pessimism, anxiety, and resentment crowd your mind is vital to obtain the happiness and joy you seek.

“To raise new questions, new possibilities, to regard old problems from a new angle, requires creative imagination.”

~ Albert Einstein

Always trying to find new ways to master your happiness as you travel your grief healing path is a golden answer. At this time of sorrow and loss have you considered how you can learn to master your happiness? Will you?

Golden Answer # 6

HAVE YOU CONSIDERED ALL THE TOOLS AND IDEAS?

Often when grief hits it is often unexpected and certainly not wanted. Confusion and helplessness are common companions of grief, bereavement, and loss. It not uncommon in the early stages of grief to fail to consider, less use, effective ideas, and tools that you can use right now to make for yourself a better life.”

Some tools you may not have considered but should: Courage, Dare, Perseverance, and Toil can have a positive magical tailspin to make your difficulties and obstacles diminish.

“Difficulties show men what they are. In case of any difficulty, remember that God has pitted you against a rough antagonist that you may be a conqueror, and this cannot be without toil.”

~ Epictetus

Grief pits you against a challenging antagonist that you can only conqueror with extreme and continuous toil.

“Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.”

~ Helen Keller

Certainly, the foregoing mentioned tools and ideas are not what one thinks of as medical in nature. But their use as you take them from your grief healing toolbox can form an invincible, and unbeatable host against grief difficulties. Consider strongly about using these tools and ideas to battle against your bereavement, sorrow, and loss. Words like resolve, toil, perseverance, and courage are all strong action words. Adopt them, call them to bear-arms on your behalf.

Golden Answer # 7

WHAT IS YOUR PATH TO HAPPINESS?

“Life is NOT “Supposed to be Fair.” Know that there is no single way that life is “supposed” to be. Demanding that life meets our expectations is a sure-fire recipe for a miserable existence. Life is a game with no rules. Life just happens to us regardless of our best intentions. Our only path to happiness lies in being open to receiving whatever life throws at us – with Gratitude. Have NO Expectations of life. ~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Life is not always a sweet bowl of your favorite ice cream. So often life makes its own rules. Being open to receiving all that life throws at you with gratitude can be your best path to happiness.

“Sharpen your pencil as you create the story of your life. Ask today as you consider the many choices in your view –

what is the highest and best use of your talents, skills, and abilities? When you answer that, seize the opportunity to sharpen those qualities even more sharply by applying your focused effort.”

~ Mary Anne Radmacher

“Seize every opportunity, embrace all possibilities for happiness.

“It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness.”

~ Chinese proverb often quoted by Eleanor Roosevelt

At all times, embrace all positive available social media, technology, internet, and all other beneficial and essential resource solutions. Overcoming despair, grief and loss should be your highest priority. To stop grieving, start healing grief, loss, sorrow, and finding hope and joy is vital to experiencing lasting peace and happiness.

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What Is Clean Fiction?

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When you visit a library, the books are all arranged according to categories. It makes the job of finding what you want so much easier than having all the books just loaded on the shelves randomly.

Similarly with online bookstores, books and eBooks are organized according to classification. All the mystery stories are in one section, all the suspense thrillers are together, all the sweet romances are together. That’s how Amazon does it. Barnes and Noble too. In fact, all the digital book sellers use a classification system that groups similar books all together.

The classification categories are based on what readers want, and what readers look for. Businesses exist to meet the needs of the market place, so if the buying public want something, it will be made available by some enterprising business.

Take murder mysteries for example. Knowing that the reading public loves to read murder stories, many writers have specialized in that genre. Often the reader is treated to descriptions of brutal murders with or without rape. The more shocking these acts are, the stronger the audience reaction will often be.

There are other writers who choose not to write such gory stories. They may deal with a murder or a sexual attack but without highlighting the violence, suffering or horror. It’s a tragic fact that human beings around the world violate each other every day, but there are writers who may or may not include such terrible things in their stories, but if they do the evils are treated briefly.

They choose to write stories without violence. Or if a violent act is included in their story, it is not dwelt on in any blow-by-blow way. It is not glorified. The reader will know that somebody was murdered but they won’t be struggling with mental pictures of the evil.

This is what clean fiction is about. Or more accurately, this is part of the ethos adopted by authors of clean fiction. As H.L. Wegley says of his stories, “descriptions and events will never be gross, graphic, or gratuitous.” He writes inspirational thrillers and high-action romantic suspense novels.

Wegley is one of the authors featured at CleanSuspense.com where books are chosen which are clean by virtue of: no bedroom scenes, no swearing or foul language, and where violence (if there is any) is not glorified. Some of my favorite authors also avoid profanity.

Clean fiction is not so much a book category but a description of the author’s writing. So clean fiction includes romance, suspense, mysteries, thrillers… even time travel. Pretty much any genre can be written in a clean way.

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What is America’s Number One New Year’s Resolution?

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Yes, you guessed it. Americans resolve to lose weight. So it is not at all out of the question to assume this resolution may be on your list as well.
If so, then keep in mind that achieving your health and fitness goals is not just a day-to-day, week-to-week or month-to-month affair. The key to keeping this New Year’s resolution is changing your entire lifestyle.
Although the phrase “weight loss” is really the hot button, fat loss is the actual issue. In order to lose excess body fat, you must take care of your body and nurture your emotional state too. So it is very important to remember as fat is lost, you should also help yourself crucial gain self-esteem.

Do not put your self-esteem on a weight loss plan as well.
Here are a few practical tips to effective fat loss and esteem improvement:
First, Take some time to learn. Do not be a “dense dieter.” It is recommended that you one of the original lifestyle diets, the Zone Diet Plan. As creator of this particular way of living and eating, Dr. Barry Sears has written eleven Zone Diet-related books and many include easy recipes to keep you in the Zone.

You may want to purchase a Zone Diet book and then try the recipes with your family. Get yourself into the nutritional state of mind. Becoming knowledgeable

will help you to internalize a healthy lifestyle you can follow with sincere understanding and confidence.
Second of all, realize Although weighing yourself is indeed important, it is in fact much more important to let your clothes speak for themselves. Monitor how your clothes are fitting you. That is much more gratifying and less defeating.
Thirdly, If you were thinner in the earlier years of your life, keep your thin photographs taped to your mirrors and carry one in your wallet. Take photos of yourself each month and put them in a scrapbook. It is very important to have a realistic view of your soon-to-be self.
Do not throw away that old pair of jeans that fit just a little bit too tight. Keep them around since some day, you will slide into them. No more tugging and squeezing. Set a realistic date for trying on the old jeans so you are not disappointed.
Fifth of all, Beware of the dreaded binge. Do not set yourself up for failure, which can play havoc with self-image. Have a healthy snack between mealtimes that will keep you satisfied so you’re less likely to overeat at the next full meal. Perhaps 1/2 of

a Meal Replacement Bar. You will then be less likely to stop at your favorite fast food “restaurant” for a double cheese burger and large order of fries.
Also Select an exercise program that you actually enjoy doing. This could mean taking a belly dancing class, running with your puppy, or participating in some group sporting events.
And last but not least, Add “superfoods” to your diet like nuts and seeds, beans and sprouts and other green foods. Get into the habit of buying them and jazz up your diet and the nutritional profile of the your recipes as well.
This will help keep you in the zone for good.

For more information on the Zone visit Zone Diet Nutrition and learn more.

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What Do You Expect From Your Customers?

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Customers are the backbone of every business. And no business can survive if it doesn’t take care of its customers. In fact, managing your customers is as crucial as managing your employees. Having said that, some customers can cause unneeded stress and take up too much your valuable time.

So what should you expect from your customers and how can this make your life easier?

Get Rid of Bad Ones

Your time is valuable and there’s no reason to use up all your time dealing with people who are hostile, rude, or who don’t want to spend any money with you.

Sometimes, business owners may think that offering exceptional service involves enduring the worst customers. But while it pays to offer excellent customer service, this doesn’t mean you’re obligated to tolerate people who make you and your team miserable.

Be respectful and polite and send them on their way. However, there may be some exceptions, especially with high-profile clients whom you deem necessary to put up with. It’s up to you to decide how much you’re willing to endure to secure a customer or a sale.

And remember that you’re giving them permission to treat you badly and they’ll continue to do so if you don’t set and stick to your boundaries.

Don’t Give Free Products or Services

Some customers just like to talk. These are the people who only want free information from you and they have no plans to buy anything from you. Yes, it’s a good idea to offer comprehensive information to potential customers, but there are plenty of other people who are waiting and are ready to buy what you’re offering. Be self-respecting and cut off people who are always calling and never buying.

Typically, you don’t want to create a reputation of being a tyrant, but it’s worth it to be pragmatic and sensible of your boundaries. And the goal isn’t to alienate your customers but to let them know your business operates within a reasonable structure.

So don’t be afraid to have consistent standards. Because when you respect your customers and take care of them, they’ll respect that you run your business on your own terms. This is the type of customer you want.

Customers Return and They Pay More

To provide excellent customer service and build a successful business, you have to set and stick to your boundaries. Customers reward the companies they enjoy doing business with: they keep coming back and they pay more.

Customers Talk about You More

Providing excellent service goes beyond current customers, because 80% of people will recommend a business to friends and family after great service. And 40% of happy customers will share their story on social media. This will grow your business and generate more profits.

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