So you find yourself stuck in the friend zone, and want to get out of it as soon as possible. Would you believe me if I told you that one of the main reasons you are in your situation right now is because you simply did not touch her enough?
It’s true. Over 90% of communication relies on body language (such as posture, eye contact, and yes, touching) and tone of voice — yes, that means that less than 10% of what you’re saying isn’t actually coming out of your mouth. Yet, most guys are hesitant to touch a woman they have strong feelings for for several reasons:
1. You feel that it’s an invasion of her privacy,
2. You “respect her personal space”
3. You don’t want her to think of you as a pervert
If you subscribe to one of the beliefs above, stop it immediately! 3 out of every 4 of men who find themselves in the friend zone would GREATLY BENEFIT by simply touching her more. Done right, casual touching will amplify sexual tension between a man and a woman. But beware: there is a very fine art of doing this – do it the wrong way, the only thing you’ll be kissing are your chances goodbye.
Start off simple; your efforts to break the touch barrier do not have to be overt when you’re starting out (actually, you CANNOT be overt about it at all!). Here are some of the things you can do right away:
a.) When you’re about to say something, get her attention by giving her a gentle touch on the arm. You can also do this when you see her. Don’t hold the touch for too long – 2-3 seconds is long enough.
b.) Tease her, and then give her a playful yet caressing hug while apologizing. Putting your arm around her works as well. Believe it or not, something this simple will help her see you in a more sexual manner – this can really make her feel like she’s protected by a strong man.
c.) You can also “unintentionally” be brushing different parts of your body against her. For example, if you’re sitting together, casually let your leg be in contact with her leg, or your arm with her arm, maybe even your hand against her hand.