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Handle the Argumentative Communicator and Difficult People

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There are many ways people botch important communication each and every day. They lose jobs, hurt their relationships and limit their opportunities in life. Each of the habits have many “sub-habits.” In this article you will be introduced to the argumentative communicator.

Eight Habits of Highly Ineffective Communicators

The Blaming Communicator

The Argumentative Communicator

The Gossiping Communicator

The Judgemental Communicator

The Comparison Making Communicator

The Better Than Communicator

The Hear My Old Baggage Communicator

The Interrupting Communicator

Have you ever been in a conversation where you found your mind drifting, dreaming, and struggling to stay focused? Do you remember how it feels to try and listen as someone drones on and on? When we are faced with a poor communicator there can be many reasons for the missed connection. Often there are words and phrases that simply shut us down, and prevent us from listening as well as we would like. Many times the person communicating is injecting so many negative words and ideas that we begin to feel down and heavy inside. It may just be that the person you are communicating with is boring you because the content of the communication is all about them, about stories you don’t care to listen to, and people you have never met!

What if that poor communicator who is boring someone to tears…. is you? How would you know if you are the one who is inserting negative associations, bringing up insignificant details, droning on about you, you, you? How do you know if someone is really interested in what you have to say… that they are really engaged in the conversation? What is your method of observing whether or not the person or group is interested and intrigued, or tired and looking for the door?

When you become a top notch communicator, you learn from everyone you talk with. You will notice the subtle cues that tell you if you are in good rapport, speaking in a way that your audience understands, and using words that create desire and interest. You will be willing to identify in yourself those things that push others away and prevent them from listening as well as you would like. This is a very potent aspect of self awareness that allows you to stay fascinating to everyone around you!

Throughout this series of articles you will look at the areas of communication where people most often go wrong. You will discover how you may have been alienating others and helping them to feel negative when they are around you. As you read these scenarios, notice if you see yourself in them. Take time to be very honest about your style of communication and the effects you are having on those around you.

The Argumentative Communicator

Do you enjoy playing the devil’s advocate? Are you constantly offering your opposing opinion when it is not asked for? Do you find yourself saying the word “but” often in your conversation with others? You may be an argumentative talker. There is an effective way to take an opposing view, but it may destroy rapport. There is a way to give your opinion, but it may be received as unwanted advice. When you continue to oppose the comments of your listener, you run the risk of making them feel wrong, stupid, or uninformed.

Men and women seem to view communication differences in different ways. I often notice that men will say, “we had a debate” or “an intense conversation” and women will indicate that they had “a fight” or an “argument.”

The argumentative communicator, whether a man or a woman should be aware that their communication efforts may immediately be perceived as a “fight” (the worst of the four above labels) regardless of the intent of the communicator.

I have a confession to make. I was in debate in high school and like Jack Welch (former CEO of GE) I find a good debate stimulating and enlightening. Debate generally can be described as a structured discussion where individuals cite evidence about an issue in an attempt to persuade another person. Debate is an intellectual process where it is OK and preferable to be “right.” While I do enjoy debating very much, I do not enjoy arguing, which is emotionally based.

Arguing is where two or more people disagree about some subject, they raise their voices and make the discussion personal by bringing in the other person’s intentions.

What’s the difference then between debate and an argument?

In debate we cite evidence with the intent to validate our point of view. In arguments we cite evidence, make claims about the negative intention of the other person’s behavior, and become very emotional to the point where apologies will be in order after the communication is finished because one or both parties will have their feelings hurt. In an argument the individual feels attacked. When the attack is perceived as hostile, with intention to harm, I call this a “fight.”

Perceptions are tricky things. One person may be simply debating or discussing a subject intellectually with no intent to harm. The other person may perceive such communication as intending to harm them and they feel as if they are in a fight with a need to defend themselves instead of their point of view! Sometimes it takes quite a long time for the person who is debating to come to the conclusion that the other person is upset and fighting.

There are no easy and clearly defined answers to rapidly determine whether someone thinks you are arguing, fighting, debating or discussing. Therefore it is vital to ask if it’s “OK to have this conversation” or at least smile. It’s also important to keep sarcasm out of discussions and debates if it isn’t obvious to the other person that you are having fun with them…instead of poking fun at them.

The argumentative communicator needs to be right. They want to defeat their opponent as if the dining room or boardroom is a courtroom where only one person can “win.” In interpersonal communications or in business, it’s critical to remember that it’s very easy for no one to win. This doesn’t mean to stop disagreeing or intellectually pursuing what is good and right. It is very important to make sure those we have discussions with do not feel attacked.

There is an additional problem. You and I both know that we often take possession of our ideas as if they were our identity. If people’s ideas and verbalized thoughts are always experienced at the level of one’s identity, then all debate will become perceived as fighting or arguing. Therefore, when this pattern of communication erupts it’s important to separate the idea from the person. This doesn’t stop discussion and debates from becoming arguments and fights but it does add clarity to the conversation.

If you are discussing something with someone and they perceive you as argumentative, I suggest you ask the person, “How can I present counter examples and other points of view to you so that you are not offended and your feelings are not hurt?” I thought of this wonderful question many times when it was simply too late to ask.

If you experience numerous people saying things like, “you just love to argue don’t you?” or “why do you always argue with me” or “I don’t want to fight with you,” then regardless of whether you are fighting with people or not you need to reconsider your approach to communication so you are perceived as less abrasive.

Many times people who are intellectuals (whether they are “intellectual snobs” or not!) are considered argumentative simply because they have such a broad or deep knowledge about something that they are constantly the individual with superior knowledge about a subject. This can lead others to feeling inferior. In these situations it can be useful for the person perecieved as superior and therefore the one who often puts others “on edge” or “on the defensive” to reduce the number of verbalizations in a communication and “tighten up their communication.” Make long speeches shorter. Ask more questions and have fewer total words spoken in dialogue.

Remember: Where one person knows seems to know everything, the other person is not necessary…or at least that’s how they feel.

Most brilliant people got that way because they were incredibly inquisitive. This too can become a problem. Asking questions of others is a great way to learn about how others feel, think and believe but believe it or not…there are lines that can be crossed here as well!

Many people process their “thoughts” through their “feelings.” You can ask someone what they are thinking and they will say, “I don’t know,” “nothing”, “not much,” “nothing important,” and so on. These people aren’t planning major life events in their mind, they are simply in the moment…in their feelings and because they process information differently from verbalizing thinkers, they often feel inadequate in a relationship or are pegged as poor communicators. In fact, they may not be good communicators but they can improve their communication skills if others don’t put an enormous amount of pressure on them.

If you are a person who takes time to process external information and you don’t communicate well about information you have just received, a good strategy to appear more competent is to say things like, “I need to consider what you’ve said…to ponder it.” “Let me think about what you’ve said. I’d like to talk with you tomorrow about it, when I’ve taken the time it deserves.” “My initial reaction is positive and I’d like to take some more time to consider it.”

What this does is allow the two parties to know that there is no problem with what was communicated by the verbalizing party and that they are indeed considering the information, not ignoring it as verbalizers often feel others are doing “to them.”

“Non-verbalizers” (people who use few words in the course of a day or a conversation) often become angry when they are asked to express more than they already have said. This leads them to argue from their feeling base. “Why do you always make me feel bad.” “You’re mean.” “You don’t respect my feelings.” They might raise their voice and repeat the same sets of feelings or thoughts over and over and they are now arguing.

Instead, the “nonverbalizer” can share information like this. “I’m starting to get upset but it’s because I’m not able to put my feelings into words yet. I’m not upset with you and I don’t want to be, so let me ponder this and let’s talk again tomorrow about it.”

Meanwhile, the “verbalizer” (people who share lots of information…almost streams of information in communication) get upset and angry when others don’t respond in like kind. Someone who communicates 50 out of 60 minutes will feel the other person is “holding back” or “covering up” or that they just don’t care. These things upset the “verbalizer” and once upset, as with all communication about to go wrong…emotions will get the best of the verbalizer and communication will deteriorate rapidly. Because the verbalizer is able to deliver words in large volume and speed, the verbalizer also is more likely to be deemed argumentative when she gets upset. Her voice will raise and become angry.

The verbalizer needs to share their feelings now. “I’m starting to become angry because I feel as if you are not sharing with me what I’m asking you for. Am I reading you right?” It’s very important that the nonverbalizer doesn’t take this communication as “blaming” because the nonverbalizer is by definition someone who doesn’t communicate as much and certainly not as quickly as a verbalizer.

What can you do if you are dealing with an argumentative communicator that you have to deal with?

* Tell the person you don’t enjoy arguing but that you will discuss options and ideas.

* Tell the person you respect their point of view but disagree.

( If necessary, tell the person that this subject is something you don’t wish to continue discussing because it is personal or volatile. (This is OK for business of course but not going to do the trick in long term relationships.)

* Speak your point of view clearly and what it would take for you to re-evaluate your point of view.

* Ask the person, Is being right more important than your feelings?” (In other words, what is at stake? Safety? Life/Death? Some long term issue? or Is it about whether you squeeze the toothpaste from the middle or end….)

* Suggest the person frame their comments in a more gentle fashion. “I know you aren’t saying that to attack me, it just hurts when you say it that way.”

“Instead of yelling, allow yourself to speak calmly and then I’ll be able to listen to you better.”

“If you stop calling me names when we talk, I’d be a lot less defensive. Deal?”

What can you do if YOU are the argumentative communicator?

* Ask more questions.

* Be interested in how the other people in your life came to believe and think what they think.

* Be aware that not everyone perceives discussion, debate, arguing and fighting in the same way. Find out what those important to you believe about each of these things.

* Ask the important people in your life specifically how you can communicate with them to help them know you don’t want to argue but discuss.

* Determine why you need to be “right” or make someone else “wrong” in heated communications.

* Always think of your intention. If your intention is gentle. Speak more quietly. People associate quieter tones and gentler intentions.

* Show people you care in ways other than verbally so they know you care when you do argue.

* If you find yourself getting into a heated discussion, ask the other person if they feel you are arguing or discussing. Ask what the difference would be for them.

* Ask your friend/association/partner how you can communicate without giving the appearance of arguing.

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How to Record Zoom Meeting as a Participant & Without Host Permission

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Zoom meetings are fast-paced and frenetic, which makes it challenging for your team to stay on the same page. This can make it difficult to keep discussions brief and concise. To help keep everyone on the same page, you can use a Zoom meeting recording app. Participants can listen to the meeting and take notes without disrupting the flow of the meeting. The best part? You don’t need to be an IT pro to set up a Zoom meeting recording. Follow these simple steps to start recording your team’s meetings.

What is a Zoom Meeting Recording?

Unlike a normal meeting, which is audio-only, a Zoom meeting allows you to both see and hear everyone in the meeting room. Zoom takes notes during the meeting and sends the audio recording straight to your inbox. Then, you can edit and annotate the recording with your team’s comments. You can also share the recording with others who are on the meeting attendee list. Once you start recording, you can pause and resume the Zoom recording if you need to. And don’t worry, your team won’t be able to see that you’re recording them. Zoom offers several different recording options, so you can find one that works for your team.

Record Your Team’s Meetings with Zoom

If you’re looking to start recording your team’s Zoom meetings, consider setting up a recurring meeting. Every week, you can schedule a Zoom meeting to record the meeting. This makes it easier to stay consistent. You can also use a Zoom meeting recording app like Webex Meetings or Zoom to record your team’s meetings on your smartphones and tablets. Before you can record a meeting, make sure the option is turned on in your Zoom settings. Next, invite everyone to join the meeting via the company-wide Zoom app.  If you have any questions about the recording, click “Ask the host” and send an email to the host.

Set Up a Zoom Meeting Recording

While recording a Zoom meeting is convenient, you’ll want to make sure it’s set up correctly. Begin by inviting everyone who will be invited to the meeting to join via the Zoom app. Then, start the meeting and make sure the “Record” option is turned on. If the meeting is audio-only, then you won’t be able to record it. But, you can use a screen recorder like Camtasia to record the meeting. If the meeting is audio-only, then you won’t be able to record it. But, you can use a screen recorder like Camtasia to record the meeting. Once the meeting is finished recording, you’ll be able to view and edit the recording in your Zoom inbox. When you’re ready to save it, select “Save” from the header. If you have any questions, you can send an email to the host or host leader.

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If you’re looking to start recording your team’s Zoom meetings, consider setting up a recurring meeting. Every week, you can schedule a Zoom meeting to record the meeting. This makes it easier to stay consistent. You can also use a Zoom meeting recording app like Webex Meetings or Zoom to record your team’s meetings on your smartphones and tablets. Before you can record a meeting, make sure the option is turned on in your Zoom settings. Next, invite everyone to join the meeting via the company-wide Zoom app. Once everyone has accepted the invite, they will automatically be added to the meeting. Then, you can start the meeting and begin recording.  When you’re ready to save it, select “Save” from the header. If you have any questions, you can send an email to the host or host leader.

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If you want to start recording your team’s Zoom meetings, you can use a screen recorder like Camtasia. This will allow you to record the meeting audio and take screen recordings. If your team uses Zoom, you can also use a screen recorder like Camtasia to record the meeting audio and take screen recordings. This will help you stay on the same page with your team. Once you’ve set up your Zoom meeting recording, host the meeting and start recording. Then, start the screen recorder to record the meeting audio and take screen recordings. You can use these recordings to help your team stay on the same page. Make sure to set the screen recorder’s audio level to “Mic +” or “Mic Only.” This will make sure you don’t accidentally record the meeting audio. Next, share your screen recordings with your team. They can then view and edit their screen recordings to make sure everyone is on the same page.

wrap up the meeting after the recording

 When you’re ready to save it, select “Save” from the header. END the meeting by announcing that it’s time to end the meeting. If you want to add a closing remark, then do so. But, make sure to announce that the meeting is over. If you have any questions, you can send an email to the host or host leader. END the meeting by announcing that it’s time to end the meeting. If you want to add a closing remark, then do so. But, make sure to announce that the meeting is over. If you have any questions, you can send an email to the host or host leader.

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One benefit of recording your team’s Zoom meetings is that you can use a screen recorder like Camtasia. This will allow you to record the meeting audio and take screen recordings. If your team uses Zoom, you can also use a screen recorder like Camtasia to record the meeting audio and take screen recordings. This will help you stay on the same page with your team. Make sure to set the screen recorder’s audio level to “Mic +” or “Mic Only.” This will make sure you don’t accidentally record the meeting audio. Next, share your screen recordings with your team. They can then view and edit their screen recordings to make sure everyone is on the same page.

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6 Tik Tok Mistakes To Avoid For Building A Good Marketing Strategy

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6 Tik Tok Mistakes To Avoid For Building A Good Marketing Strategy

Sometimes we people can lag having something new in a day, but our technology speed would never. Tech fields have touched spikes from the past to now by seeing the launch of social networking sites every day. If it comes to sharing an example, then nothing can beat the craze of Tik Tok marketing that people are still in the same passion and looking to shift to another platform that helps them gain popularity within a night. Counting the estimate from past years, Tik Tok has reached 800 million+ fans worldwide.

Tik Tok has gained massive success till it has ruled the market singlehandedly. But there are some mistakes if tackled with time then, the future can be different for it. If you want to build a good brand identity, you must avoid some mistakes that help you eliminate the situation that might become a hurdle for you in the future ahead.

  • Not Targeting The Right Audience.

The most common reason for not surviving TikTok in the market so long is that it is mainly coming into force to entertain the public at large. As it has whooping popularity with 8-00+ billion followers, people have started placing their ads on that. So selecting the niche where you need to target your audience is very important for avoiding mistakes for existence.

  • Not Being Fun

Before posting something on any social media or engaging platform, we have to analyze the content that needs to be placed accordingly. Like TikTok is a platform for entertainment and fun, you can’t place serious and wooden content there for gaining views. It’s just like you are ruining the pace of things meant to be there.

  • Not Sharing User-Generated Content

It needs to be deeply researched into what kind of videos can gain a high engagement rate. Not all kinds of videos are supposed to be posted there, as TikTok marketingdemands user-generated content. Try to build or gain the trust of your followers by making them feel comfortable with your linking. 

  • Not Feeling The Urgency Of Influencers

People love to believe those they feel more engaged with regularly or more frequently. So taking support from influencers to boost engagement on your platform would be a great move that can help you increase your brand visibility and increase followers’ reach. 

  • Lagging In Hashtag Challenges

If you have stepped into social media platforms, you must have good knowledge of how beautifully you can use hashtags. So sit and research what could be the best hashtags that can go well with your brand reach and how you can use them to increase your audience range.

  • Not Looking Realistic

Excessive promotional activity can snatch the realness out of your brand. Alternatively, you can go with content that indirectly benefits your product or services. Finally, try to adopt a more natural approach to encourage the brand so that followers love to become a part of your journey.

Takeaway

If you are searching for a reference where you can get all the amazing things done with your social media handles, you can reach out on the page ‘Socialboosting“. If your purpose is to increase the number of followers, boost engagement, Quality followers, and marketing tips, you should not delay reaching out there. Give it a right try in just the right way.

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Secrets to AI PRAPHRASING TOOL

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PRAPHRASING TOOL

If you’re like most people, you probably think that artificial intelligence (AI) is some sort of magic. After all, it can do things like read and understand human language, recognize faces and objects, and even beat humans at complex games like chess.

But the truth is, AI is just a tool. And like any tool, it can be used for good or for bad.

In this article, we’re going to talk about some of the ways that AI can be used for evil purposes. 

We’ll also discuss what you can do to protect yourself from these malicious uses of AI.

1. Creating Fake Videos and Photos

One of the most worrying ways that AI can be used for evil purposes is to create fake videos and photos. This is also known as “deep fakes.”

Deep fakes are created by using a type of AI called a generative adversarial network (GAN). A GAN consists of two neural networks: a generator and a discriminator.

The generator creates fake data, while the discriminator tries to distinguish between the real and fake data. The two networks compete with each other, and as they do, the generator gets better and better at creating realistic fake data. Check RemoteDBA for more details.

Deep fakes have been used to create fake celebrity porn, as well as political propaganda. In 2018, for example, a deep fake video of Barack Obama went viral. The video featured Obama saying things that he never actually said.

2. Stealing Your Personal Data

Another way that AI can be used for evil purposes is to steal your personal data. This is possible because many popular applications and websites use AI to recommend content to you based on your interests.

In order to do this, these applications and websites need to collect data about you. This includes things like your age, gender, location, and what you like to do online.

Once they have this data, they can sell it to advertisers or use it to influence your behavior.

3. Manipulating the Stock Market

AI can also be used to manipulate the stock market. This is possible because there are now algorithms that can automatically trade stocks based on certain conditions.

Some of these algorithms are designed to take advantage of human behavior. For example, they may buy stocks when prices are low and sell them when prices are high. This can result in huge profits for the people who own these algorithms, but it can also crash the stock market.

4. Disrupting Elections

AI can also be used to disrupt elections. This is possible because AI can be used to create fake news articles and social media posts. These fake articles and posts can then be spread by bots, which are automated software programs that control online accounts.

Bots can be used to automatically like, share, and comment on content. They can also be used to message people en masse. This means that they can easily influence what people see on social media and other online platforms.

If you’re like most people, you probably think that the best way to get better at paraphrasing is to practice on your own. However, this isn’t always the case. While it’s true that practice makes perfect, there are some other things that you can do to help improve your paraphrasing skills. 

In this article, we’ll share with you some of the secrets to becoming a master paraphrase.

The first secret is to understand what you’re reading. This may seem like a no-brainer, but it’s actually very important. When you’re reading something, take the time to think about what it means. If you can’t understand it, chances are you won’t be able to paraphrase it correctly. 

The second secret is to take your time. Don’t try to paraphrase something if you’re in a hurry. If you rush, you’re likely to make mistakes. Instead, take your time and focus on getting it right. 

The third secret is to practice, practice, and practice. The more you practice, the better you’ll become at paraphrasing. To find a text that you can use for practice and start working on it. 

Conclusion:

By following these secrets, you’ll be well on your way to becoming a master paraphrase. So get out there and start practicing!

If you want to improve your paraphrasing skills, there are a few things you can do. One is to practice on your own, and another is to understand what you’re reading. You should also take your time when paraphrasing, and focus on getting it right. And finally, keep practicing!

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