For women seeking to have better, wetter sex, Kim Anami says just say no to the lube tube. So what’s the trick to staying slick? The sexpert shares that the secret lies in harnessing the power of a jade yoni egg. Anami insists circulation equals lubrication and she says one of the reasons for a dry vag could be weak vaginal muscles.

Vaginal dryness can start to become an issue for women as early as their 40s, but Anami says there’s a loophole around the lube hole.

“Having a strong and articulate vagina via a jade egg practice makes Niagara Falls out of the most menopausal and bedside-lube-reliant of women,” claims Anami, who has studied more than 30 years of Tantra, Taoism, and other philosophies. “The most common thing I hear from vaginal weightlifters is that they now have to use towels on the bed because the gush and ejaculate is soaking their sheets.”

Anami has made headlines in Cosmopolitan, People, and Elle magazines and turned plenty of heads with her unique practice of inserting a jade yoni egg in her vagina, attaching a string to it, and hoisting various objects — from coconuts to large chunks of rose quartz. The innovative sex connoisseur even has her own line of jade yoni eggs, couture hand-blown glass dildos, and natural body oils.

Kim Anami says it comes down to it, women need to get honest about why the juices aren’t flowing.

“If you don’t regularly work out your vagina, just like every other muscle in your body, it atrophies,” says the sex virtuoso who splits her time between Bali and Los Angeles and enjoys surfing in her free time. “A strong, healthy vagina has lots of blood and oxygen flow and this has a direct impact on your ability to lubricate on demand. I have watched countless women and even menopausal women regain their wetness in weeks simply by starting a vaginal weightlifting practice.”

Anami adds it can lead to an increase in libido for women. “With a strong and resensitized vagina, a woman wants to have more sex,” Kim Anami explains. “Who wants to have sex with a numb vagina when you can’t even feel anything? Your increased libido means you get wet faster because sex is so much more enjoyable.”

Get Moving

Kim Anami recommends exercising not only the vagina, but the entire body. “Increased circulation, oxygen, and blood flow will keep your hormones pumping through all of your tissues — including your vaginal ones,” Anami says. “If your body is stagnant, there’s no way your hormones can properly circulate throughout your system.”

Anami advises working out daily to stimulate your ovaries and adrenal glands and optimize hormonal production.

Kim Anami: H20 Will Make Natural Lubrication Flow

“Wet equals wet,” Anami instructs. “You can drink yourself to wetness. Seventy-five percent of Americans suffer from chronic dehydration. I read some interviews with [supermodel] Elle ‘The Body’ Macpherson — who is arguably one the hottest 50-something women on the planet — and she was saying that one of her big beauty secrets is that she drinks 3 liters of water a day, which is a lot of water.”

“It was tough, I have to say,” Anami admits about her own water-quaffing regime. “But doing it for a while now, I notice that I feel lighter, more clearheaded, and energized throughout the day. All that water is also good for your vagina. Those tissues also benefit from the hydration. So I challenge you to up your water intake every day and see how you feel in your concentration levels and vagina.”

Certain Foods Can Get You in the Mood

Diet is another often overlooked factor Kim Anami says can affect vaginal wetness. “You can build a wetter vagina from what you eat,” Anami says. “Eat clean, whole foods, [an] organically grown diet. Particularly awesome vagina goods include essential fatty acids of flaxseed oil, olive oil, wild Alaskan salmon, fish oil supplements, avocados, raw almonds, pumpkin seeds, sunflower seeds, and sesame seeds. Sweet potatoes are rich in vitamin A, which generates sex hormone production and keeps the uterus and vaginal walls strong.”

A huge proponent of self-care and looking within to seek solutions, Kim Anami says, “Listen to your body,” and that includes your vagina. “Lubrication is the barometer,” she explains. “Lubrication is the indication that a woman is ready for sex emotionally, psychologically, and physically.”

Regarding stress and arguments, Anami warns that unfortunately, if unresolved, conflict shows up in the bedroom. She says it rears its ugly head as vaginal dryness in women or a weak erection in men. “If you have long-standing unresolved issues in the relationship, your vagina will likely be on shutdown. It won’t lubricate on demand. You’ll think you have a low libido because you don’t want to have sex with your partner. Your vagina is trying to tell you something. Listen to it.”

Let It Go

The sex and relationship coach says if a woman is ready to have sex and feels open and emotionally connected to her partner, physically she’s warmed up and has had enough foreplay to be wet, then she’s wet and it’s that simple.

“This is really why I tell women to avoid vaginal lubricants,” Anami says. “Because your body is giving you a message and if you continually override it, slathering on a bunch of lubricant, you’re creating a dissociation with your vagina which even leads to a [more numb] vagina.”

The pleasure savant further addresses how using lube will only lead to the need for more and more of the synthetic substance.

“Over time, your body will stop communicating with you, or its voice will be so quiet you just won’t hear it anymore,” she adds.

For the fellas, Anami emphasizes the rule: Only enter a woman when she’s dripping wet. “How open are you to being fully f--ked and penetrated by your partner and by life?” Anami asks. “The more open and receptive you are, the more your juices will flow.”