Summer season 2024 is coming to an finish quickly, and it’s actually among the finest summers I’ve skilled in a very long time. I’m typically busy with work and different household obligations, to which most individuals can relate. However this summer season noticed my busy schedule and the busy schedules of my mates and prolonged relations aligned to the place we truly obtained to see one another extra typically and spend some high quality time collectively.
The summer season kicked off with a protracted overdue journey in June with my aunt, Lisa, and it’s simply my favourite a part of Summer season 2024. I can recall for a variety of years Lisa, an Elvis Presley superfan, speaking about how we should always go to Graceland. I had by no means visited the long-lasting Memphis landmark however was all the time inquisitive about seeing it. It’s really probably the most American sights in america: A shocking mansion owned by considered one of music’s greatest stars ever, which additionally captures what occurs when somebody who grew up dirt-poor will get more cash than he is aware of what to do with. (I’m taking a look at you, Pool Room, along with your wild upholstered partitions!)
Miraculously, this 12 months noticed us get it collectively and plan a visit to Graceland. It was my first journey and her ninth. We even did it up proper and stayed at The Visitor Home, the beautiful Elvis-themed lodge subsequent to Graceland on Elvis Presley Blvd. The place was spotless, and the workers supplied unbelievable service. I actually can’t advocate staying there sufficient.
For my total life, Lisa has lived out of state. Once I was a child, attending to see her when she got here again dwelling to Michigan was all the time particular. Our household is chock-full of humorous folks, however I’ve all the time thought she was one of many funniest, and he or she nonetheless is. I’m effectively into my 30s now, however this was going to be the primary time we truly went on an journey collectively, simply she and I.
I drove from Michigan to her dwelling in Indiana and crashed there for the night time. The subsequent day, we wakened shiny and early and made our means from Indiana to Tennessee. Factoring numerous relaxation stops, it was about an eight-hour drive. Your complete time, we simply talked and vented about something and every little thing. Seemingly nothing was off limits, together with household trauma, which, I swear, isn’t as miserable because it sounds.
For instance, a part of our trauma bonding concerned calling my uncle, Mark, who can also be hilarious, to make enjoyable of my late grandfather’s longtime girlfriend. This was the lady he left my grandmother for, so our emotions about her aren’t precisely sunny. Regardless, there was such outstanding catharsis about making enjoyable of her that I’m genuinely interested by shopping for this “At Least My Trauma Made Me Humorous” t-shirt for our total household.
Wanting again, trauma was seemingly an undercurrent to almost every little thing we did throughout our journey. Once more, that sounds much more miserable than it was, however I skilled a form of sobering liberation from confronting numerous traumas throughout this journey, each private and historic. It occurred when listening to some unbelievable blues musicians at B.B. King’s Blues Membership on Beale St. The blues fearlessly seems trauma of every kind useless within the eye, which is a part of what makes the style so transferring.
It completely occurred when visiting the Nationwide Civil Rights Museum on the Lorraine Motel, the positioning the place Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was assassinated. The museum is meticulously curated and tackles head-on the best sin within the historical past of america: The horrific therapy of Black folks, from slavery to the rise of Jim Crow legal guidelines to the struggles of the Civil Rights Motion and in every single place in between. Each American ought to go to the Nationwide Civil Rights Museum on the Lorraine Motel. There usually are not sufficient phrases to explain simply how unbelievable the museum is.
It even occurred at Graceland, and I didn’t even see it coming.
Elvis is an advanced determine throughout the scope of music and American historical past. He was an obscenely gifted singer who was insanely charismatic and so handsome that it borders on silly. On the identical time, he was a white man who carried out and profited off of Black music. His downfall on account of his habit to prescribed drugs additionally serves as a cautionary story. Elvis represents pleasure and ache. Promise and failure. Hope and despair.
Elvis is America.
Strolling by means of Graceland, it’s arduous to not really feel these sturdy, conflicting feelings. Even when listening to the Graceland audio tour narrated by John Stamos on my headphones, I might really feel a rumbling deep inside, and all of it got here to a head within the Meditation Backyard, the place Elvis and his household are buried.
As Stamos narrated my solution to the Meditation Backyard, I took in all the graves. Lisa Marie Presley is there now, as is her son, Benjamin Keough. Stamos’ narration involves a detailed after which leads into the enjoying of “If I Can Dream” in my headphones. Across the second verse of “If I Can Dream,” which is my favourite Elvis tune, I discovered myself standing in entrance of Elvis’s grave:
“There should be peace and understanding someday/Robust winds of promise that can blow away the doubt and worry/If I can dream of a hotter solar/The place hope retains shining on everybody/Inform me why, oh why, oh why gained’t that solar seem.”
I couldn’t maintain it in any longer, and I cried for the primary time in a really very long time. Positive, I cried as a result of the second was overwhelming, however I believe I cried for extra than simply that. I cried for Elvis and the tragedy in his household. I cried for my late brother, who, like Elvis, additionally struggled with habit. I cried for the various traumas of my household. And I cried for America and its many traumas.
It was a second after I realized I used to be holding onto much more inside than I noticed, and it was a second after I let a whole lot of it go. To repeat: It was a sobering liberation.
I took from my journey to Graceland and Memphis recollections that I’ll look again on fondly endlessly, however extra importantly and unexpectedly, I let go of lots, too. Largely, I’ve my Aunt Lisa to thank for that. (And Elvis, too.) I’ve a hunch we’ll attempt to plan one other journey. (It seems we journey very effectively collectively.) Nonetheless, subsequent time, perhaps rather less trauma. Nicely, aside from making enjoyable of my late grandfather’s longtime girlfriend. That was simply enjoyable.
Signing the wall at Graceland with a message that was an enormous understatement. (Photograph by Erica Banas/Aunt Lisa.)
Erica Banas is a information blogger who’s been protecting the rock/traditional rock world since 2014. The best occasion she’s ever coated in individual was the 2021 Rock & Roll Corridor of Fame induction ceremony. (Sir Paul McCartney inducting Foo Fighters? C’mon now!) She’s additionally well-versed in etiquette and terribly good. #TransRightsAreHumanRights
